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writes:My boyfriend has been depressed for about a month now ever since his dog died, is he a little too attached to his dog for him to be this depressed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): No, he is not " a little too attached". To most people pets are family members, and when you lose one it is like losing a family member and/or a piece of you. I should know , because in 2008 we moved from Florida to Kentucky, about 2 weeks after my dog passed. I regret not giving him a proper goodbye. And I will always regret that. Ever since it happened my emotions have been a wreck.What comforts me is that I know that he is in no pain now. And what also comforts me is sleeping with a couple of his favorite toys at night.
Does your boyfriend have his dogs leash? Or a favorite toy?
It has been a couple years, and I am still grieving . Your boyfriend just needs a little time, or a lot of time. If he wants to talk , hear him out, and comfort him.
I hope I helped.
~K~T~
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Well, To be straight with this, I know for a fact and am dreading the day comes when my cat moves on =/ I don't even know how I'm going to cope because I love him that much (not in a weird fetish way or anything) but he's my little boy and I'm scared anything happens to him whilst I go to university at the end of next year, I know for a fact my mum will be the same and my dad will be sad, although he won't show it.
What your boyfriend is experiencing to me would be normal, he must have really loved his dog and you need to support him. Maybe you should get him another dog? (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): How can you be "too attached" to a pet?
I had a hamster a few years ago. She was a lovely weird little thing, she loved getting handled and stroked and played with. She was really clever and just loved company. When she died i was utterly and completely devastated. When I told my friend about it however, he replied "oh it was only a hamster, i'll buy you a new one they're only £2.50 in the pet shop"
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My point is that you will never really understand what he's going through unless you've had that attachment yourself. Be there for him, and don't think it weird that he's bummed out, it shows he has a heart and sometimes that's difficult to find in a man these days.
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (15 February 2010):
 Animals are the only things that love you without question.
Of course hes upset, you should be there for him
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (15 February 2010):
 A dog is a hard friend/family member to lose. People get very attached to their pets - its an unconditional pal that radiates silent love to you around the clock. It's understandable that he would still be bummed out about it. Man, I think about the dog I grew up with sometimes and still get sad that she's gone. Such is life, and a dog can be a wonderful friend that's hard to lose. Be there for your fella, be his sunshine and eventually the days will seem brighter to him!
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (15 February 2010):
 No, he's not too attached...he loved his dog. When my cat died I was quite upset for a very long time. She was a big part of my life and my family...she was a family member.
He's lost a family member and he's upset. You just need to be there for him and listen to him if he wants to talk. In time the hurt will get better and he will be left with good memories of his dog.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 February 2010):
Some people just take it badly. My friend had a hamster and was depressed for nearly a year. All you can do is be there for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): I think some people understand about loosing a pet, and others just think it was a dog get over it.
How old was the dog? Your boyfriend probably had the dog though most of his childhood, considered part of his family and it is only natural for him to be upset.
At the end of the day you boyfriend is upset, and the thing to do is show him some support.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (15 February 2010):
 some people love animals and when they have a pet of their own it becomes like a child and trust me im one of those people and it hurts like hell when something happens to your animal for us it becomes part of the family/ so yes he will be depressed and upset about this! so just becomforting and understanding try and do fun things with him to make him feel happier. not everyone understands the bond of one man and his dog/ but imagine you have a child and it just died its the same thing whether you see it or not but to us it is! so just be patient and understanding and it should all come together aphex xx
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