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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I lost my virginity to him and we were friends with benefits for months, he told me he really liked me but needed to focus on school. I felt like I was being used so I said i wasnt going to do it anymore. He then asked me to be his girlfriend and even intoduced me to his friends as his girlfriend but then he started to freak out about this new label and said that he felt pressure to always hang out with me, his "girlfriend". I told him that nothing has changed and if he wanted space, i would give it to him. He said he needed it but then the next day he made plans to hang out and I asked him what he wanted and he said he didnt want to lose me and wanted to keep hanging out to really get to know me and see if he wants me as a gf. Oh and he also said we shouldnt have sex anymore. I havent seen him or heard from him since thurs of last week because I went away for the weekend. Is he confused about this new relationship and needs more time? Should i call him to see how he is doing? I dont want to sound needy or pressure him. Is he just an ***hole and im too blind to see it because i like him so much? Hes 23 and im 19 by the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): His actions clearly show he is either confused or unsure. It would be best to give him a little time to work things out. Stay with him. Reassure him you're not going anywhere until he knows what he wants.My second advice you don't have to do if you don't want to or think this will hurt your relationship:You could ask for a break. Don't see each other for a while, don't talk to each other. You are still together, but you're just taking a little time off to think without having both your thoughts distracted. This is supposed to help clear whatever doubts and confusion you have with each other. Hoped this help.
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