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*sifi
writes:Ok so their is this guy, we are best friends. Only for the last couple months. I have been very stressed out recently with school and friends, I have panic attacks and stress attacks, and he has really helped by pretty much just being there But in the short time we have been friends he has asked me out twice, I said no both times but now I'm feeling like there might by something there So #1 question is, is my heart only yearning because he is a stand up guy who reminds me to breath and is a shoulder to cry on Question #2 how am I to know if he is a stand up guy at all or if he just spotted a reasonably good looking girl with out friends and decided to play hero to get in her pantsI'm 16, a sophomore and I just need some older wiser people to give me some advice I'm really not good at this kind of stuff and my mom was less than helpful
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reader, Esifi +, writes (9 March 2011):
Esifi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah thank you for the advice For now I'm just going to emailing him and dodging possible dates which will be fine because I'm on home and hospital independent study due to the panic attacks
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): Its never 100% when trying to read people and you must always be wary. But it seems that this guy is quite persistent, so may be looking for a relationship. How long have you known him?
If he's really your best friend you could talk to him about your sex life, maybe say youre not ready at the moment and see if he backs off.
In the end if you like him you should go for it, if you want to be sure leave it a few months. After all its always safer to go from friend to relationship as you know each other a bit more than if you went straight into one.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Even genuine guys want to get into a girls pants. Fact.
What makes a guy genuine is how much he respects you and your limits. Simply put, I think a genuine guy is just willing to suppress his urges for longer and put in more effort for longer.
I think if girls told guys that they would 100% not have sex for at least 4-6 months and they themselves didn't allow themselves to be alone with the guy in situations where they could easily have sex without being caught.... that there would be a lot less broken hearts out there.
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