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writes:i been with my boyfriend about 5 years now wwe have a son together ... to get to the point isever since i had my son i feel fat which is normal but i miss beeing in my size 5 pants and i hate wearing size 9 my breast got huge i us to be a c now im a dd my boyfrind makes me feel ugly stupid and fat cuz he wants me to look like before .. i told him i takes time its only been 5 months since i had my son and yet he request girls who arewell the way i use to be on acebook i cought him once but im affraid that just because are son came to the picture he wont love me anymore......what can do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 Right, from what I can tell, there is no reason for you to assume your partner is cheating other than the fact that he adds girls on Facebook? This is nowhere near enough to say he's a cheater. In fact, what I think is driving your fear's is your own low self-esteem and maybe your suffering from post-natal depression?
I think the first key thing you absolutely need to do is talk to your partner about this and tell him how you feel rather than let this stew and leap to wild and potentially highly unfounded accusations which could drive him away and cause the things you fear. Open up to him, tell him your concerns, and I am sure he will reciprocate with some reassurance and understanding of how your feeling.
Secondly, I think in this instance it might be best for you to seek medical advice in this particular instance because of the possibility of post-natal depression. Both your partner and others will be there for you will be there for you if you reach out for help. Unless, of course, you have something more substantive than adding people on Facebook, then don't assume your BF is a cheater because the odds are he is not. Good luck :)x
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