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writes:Ok, I have posted a question about my girlfriend before who wouldnt introduce me to her kids, her parents or her friends. I can accept the situation with her kids becuase I have kids of my own and I can see you wouldnt introduce them until you where 100% sure that it was going to work out.She moved house about a month ago after selling her house she owned with her ex husband. I used to go round about 5 nights a week and stay but since she moved, she said she wanted time with her kids and she would only see me one a fortnight on the weekend.Things have kind of gone down hill very fast in a month from there. She says she still loves me but love is not enough? I still love her massively and we have had three big almost breakup discussions where she says she doesnt want to hurt me, that she doesnt want me to hang around for her while she sorts her problems out, thats shes really messed up and doesnt want a relationship right now. After each big discussion she says that she still wants me and that we should see how it goes. The last of those was two days ago, but now she just txted me a really rude response to something I said, and I said to her that if she wants to contact me and say something nice she can, if she wants comfort fromm me she can contact me but that her depressive attitude is a downer at the moment and that everything I did wasnt getting through, so maybe we shouldnt contact each other at all until she wants to contact in a nice way.She's agreed to that and now I'm really scared that I've finally driven a nail into our awesome relationship that until one month ago we were saying we were both each others dream partner.Will this work out if I just give her space, and how much space should I give? Please help me - I'm completely lost right now.
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reader, ironman777 +, writes (4 March 2011):
ironman777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot for that advice, it was what I was thinking as well, but how long should I wait, she was saying stuff like a year and that seems ridiculous to me - I have needs as well for support and comfort....btw we have been going out for 8 months
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 It sounds like your relationship is under a lot of strain. She obviously is in a very messed up place at the moment and she doesnt need anymore stress in her life. To me it does sound like she cares about you a lot but she needs time to settle in to her new life and her new living arrangements. I think the best thing you can do is NOT contact her what so ever. Its clear she needs time and space to sort out her life and her problems. So let her come to you. I know this is hard but you need to accept that she needs time and tell yourself if you contact her you are only going to push her away further. Goodluck.
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