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Is friendship with this married guy going the wrong way?

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Question - (4 January 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 4 January 2009)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I'm asking this question b/c although sometimes one might feel like is just about friendship, there are somethings that makes you wonder if it's just an innocent flirty kinda game or if it might lead to something else later.

I become friend with a guy I met in a meeting 2 years ago, we were very friendly nothing sexual so we got along well. He left to his place of station (he's GI) overseas. We started communicating by email soon after he left. He always have talked nice things about family (he 2nd marriage and have kids from the 1st one) I believe by what he says he's happy.

We keep in touch often, we share jokes, pictures of ourselves, thoughts and stuff going on in our lives like if we travel and etc. Even deployed we have communicated and on the phone in his office sometimes, just little chats.

The thing that keeps me thinking is that I don't think his wife knows about me. I've asked for a picture of his family and I hope he might sent it now that he's coming back to work from the holidays. Another thing, since we are friends and I tend to work with other GI's, whenever I mention or comment about me getting invited to parties by them or that I keep in touch with someone other than him he kinda goes like "Cool" you know? and change of subject or whatever.

When we talk he goes kinda sweet and caring, I've always mention his family and he kinda comes back to it. He had never said anything sexual or demeanoring me or making me feel like he wants something on the side, it's just the way he says things (his voice tone), the way he cares for me like protecting me, it's just makes me wonder. We are long distance and is not like I'm travelling or vice versa. My friends and people who know us both say it's going wrong. What do you think?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

Honeypie agony auntA female reader, NiceKid + ?, writes (4 January 2009):

Let's come from another angle: if you were married to this man, would all the things he's done with you be appropriate with another woman?

100% agree.

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