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writes:I just met a beautiful 22 year old (I'm 10 years older) and after our 1st intercourse, she asked me to "fist" her. She derived huge pleasure from it but I was shocked.I've had considerable experience but never have I had a girl ask me this. Since I really like this girl, I'm a bit concerned. Is this normal, am I just reading too much onto this situation?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, odeer123  +, writes (15 September 2013):
 I wouldn't call it wrong or abnormal, but if you're concerned about it hurting her, then do ask to know her reasons. However with some of the more extreme acts, the desire to experience them can sometimes stem from a childhood or previous relationship trauma, or feeling of inadequacy. If you wish, you may want to gently ask her why she requests it, and reassure her that she doesn't have to feel that she needs to impress you, or do anything outlandish to try and be more exciting - especially if it might be hurting her but she's not admitting it.In all liklihood, however, it's just something she likes, and if you're ok with it, then great! It's good to be cautious though. :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 September 2013):
 Not normal for ME but normal for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2013): Everything is normal OP. Peeing on a person is normal if you both like it. Slapping your face is normal if it gets you off.
If you're okay doing the act and she likes it, then as long as no one is getting hurt (in a way they don't want) then there's nothing to feel uncomfortable about.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 September 2013):
Not normal! At least my other lady friends aren't too shy about sharing with me about what they "like" and I've never had one admit to me that they enjoy being fisted! Oh man, just the thought of it makes me hurt...down there. Whatever floats your boat though.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (14 September 2013):
nor·mal
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conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected.
So, it's probably not normal for everyone, but it sounds pretty normal for her if she asked you to do it your first time together.
What's the difference?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 September 2013):
 I have no idea, I actually had to google it and almost puked. So for me that would NOT be normal.
I'm not saying it's gross but I just don't see how that can be pleasurable, and that is after having had 3 kids.
IF YOU like it and SHE likes it, and it's consensual, do what makes you both happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2013): Not exactly common. But I would not be concerned. It's a weird and wonderful world out there. People are into all sorts of things and if it isn't harming her then I'd say embrace it. She isn't asking to do the same to you.Pretty much any human man would kill to have a woman that is into wild stuff in the bed room. Trust me... a hand will never replace a penis in her eyes... because a hand can't create life.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 September 2013):
 It's not common at all. She likes extreme sex while you are more reserved, like most of us. Even in porn this is not in mainstream acts. Since this is after your first time with her, I would wonder if just a penis is not enough to satisfy her.
Yes, a woman's vagina can stretch to allow a baby to pass through, but this is after hours of screaming if not medicated. For me, even inserting a tampon is difficult, so I never use them.
She probably had tried dildo after dildo and needs bigger better things to maintain the level of excitement. If you are shocked it means she's more experienced than you. You are not reading too much into it. She will probably ask you to this as a normal routine. Maybe after a few more times it is not as shocking but you wonder what's the use of doing her if she prefers your hand.
Most girls hurt with a well endowed penis. The only woman I know who enjoys fisting is over 40 and had had a hysterectomy. When the hormonal balance is lost a woman loses the tightness. It is strange that such a young girl would ask for this.
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reader, PeachCobbler03 +, writes (14 September 2013):
 What constitutes "normal" is determined by what you and your girlfriend decide is normal. She obviously enjoys this activity, so unless it makes you feel uncomfortable, you don't have anything to worry about. If you're uncomfortable with this activity, then be honest with your girlfriend, and find other alternatives.
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