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writes:I am 42. I was in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 9 months but she broke up with me eighteen months ago to concentrate on a new business.Her mother contacted me a few weeks ago out of the blue. After several days of small talk and no mention of ex, I asked what was going on. She said she liked me when we met and wanted to stay in touch but knew her daughter and I had split. However, her daughter had fallen out with her and most of her family so she thought it did not matter if she talked to me. I thought she was seeing someone new but her mother insists she was not in a relationship when they fell out. I understand the business failed too.I grew up in Scotland and intend to move home eventually and think this novelty is why the mother values our friendship. But she may be using me to get back at her daughter over their falling out or possibly she would like me to contact my ex to reconcile. There were many strange relationships in my ex's large family but I was shocked to find out how isolated she has become from them.I am also determined not to contact her myself because it took a lot of work for me to put that special relationship behind me last year and I don't need that disappointment again.So - anyone had an ex's family want to stay friends? Did trouble come out of it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 I keep in touch with my ex husbands mother now and then but after 18 months for her to contact you out of the blue seems odd... I would NOT wish to be very friendly with her... it's odd.
do YOU want to be friends with the MOTHER? do you have stuff in common to sustain a friendship? if not then just not replying and therefore not doing any of the work should be enough to let it die a natural death.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 September 2013):
 Do you WANT to stay in contact with the mom? If you DO then, I can't see a problem with it.
If you feel/think she wants to stay in touch to hurt her daughter or get you and the daughter back together and you don't agree with that, then cut the contact. Tell her it's nice of her, but you are good to not remain in contact.
It really is up to how you feel.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 September 2013):
Do you think she actually liked you? Did you like her? If the answer is no to either I'd wonder. I'm sure my family would keep in touch with my wife if we divorced, but that's entirely different than a relatively short LDR.
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