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writes: Hello! I just needed to ask this one question. One of my friends told me that she was bisexual, and well, she also told me that one of my other friends, one of my best friends, was bi too. I had always thought that my best friend was bisexual, but I never confirmed it. She also told me that they did some stuff in that category, which I don't really want to say for their sake. Well anyways, my question is, is it wrong for you to be bisexual, or in other words, like the same sex?
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reader, Crlewis2  +, writes (3 February 2011):
@EXPOSING LIARS... You are uninformed, and as such, self-righteousness may be the only form of righteousness you ever attain. Since you seem to be fond of using scripture to support your OPINION on this subject, perhaps you should re-familiarize yourself with Romans 3:23 (NASB), which clearly states: "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Then perhaps you should peruse Matthew 22:37-40 (NLT), in which Jesus Christ Himself answered the question of what our highest priority as Christians should be, by saying: "...‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments."
It never ceases to amaze me the lengths people will go to in order to make themselves feel important, or to elevate themselves (in their own mind) to a level of superiority they perceive themselves due by issuing the cruelest calumnies toward the character of anyone who dissents or disagrees with their personal opinion.
I believe the Bible, in it's ORIGINAL FORM and ORIGINAL LANGUAGE to be inerrant. It is God's "Owners Manual" for our life on this earth, to be used as a tool for instruction and reproof, to enable you, as we read in Philippians 2:12-13 (NASB), to "...work out your salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure."
You mention the "rhetoric coming from those who are basically fighting for a society where it’s a sex free for all, anywhere, anytime, with anyone or any thing you “feel” like having sex with." Though I do not doubt the existence of such proponents of a "hedonistic lifestyle" - That is quite CLEARLY not the issue about which the individual who posed this question was seeking advice or comment.
@The Anonymous, Original Poster:
I'm still working through my position on the detailed aspects of this question, so I will refrain from giving a "cut and dry" answer except to offer this: Is being bisexual wrong? Well, wrong relative to what? Relative to God's will for your life? Perhaps. Perhaps Not.
The standard most people of faith use to answer that question is their understanding of the scriptures contained in the Bible. But there is a problem with that standard. The Bible, in it's original form, and in it's original language has been lost to us; lost to time. We've made great progress recently, scholarly progress, in trying to produce modern translations based as closely as possible to the original language of the surviving texts. I promise you, that in EVERY instance of ALL modern translations where the word "homosexual" or "homosexuality" appear, they are used strictly at the discretion of the translator to represent that individual or body's OPINION of the meaning of the original Greek or Hebrew texts for words such as Arsenokoites, which does NOT literally translate to the term Homosexual (or Bisexual). The term homosexual didn't even appear until 1869 in a German pamphlet authored by Karl-Maria Kertbeny. Therefore, a litteral use of the term would simply NOT HAVE BEEN POSSIBLE when the works used as foundations for modern translations were consulted. Therefore there is no escaping the conclusion that the Bible in it's ORIGINAL FORM and ORIGINAL LANGUAGE could not possibly have included these terms. Scholars, for a variety of reasons have CHOSEN to use these terms to represent the Bible's original text.
This is not the first time that social conservatives have seized upon various passages contained within the Bible to rationalize or justify their seemingly insatiable need to superimpose their own short-sided, often racist/bigoted beliefs upon society at large. Consider the well documented 19th century quote from Jefferson Davis, President, Confederate States of America: "[Slavery] was established by decree of Almighty God...it is sanctioned in the Bible, in both Testaments, from Genesis to Revelation...it has existed in all ages, has been found among the people of the highest civilization, and in nations of the highest proficiency in the arts." Don't we know better today? Would any modern, educated theologian continue to say "God says we can own slaves!" - No, of course not.
Someday, I believe we will, as Christians, have the fundamental answer to your question, and we will have evolved to a place where we realize that in this world of hatred and violence, disease and death, there are greater concerns than who loves who! God, through Christ, has instructed us to love Him above all, and of equal weight, to love one another. Love is kind, patient, and endures ALL THINGS. Love cannot be found in hatred, derision, or violence. Nothing found in the rant of "EXPOSING LIARS" meets the standards of conduct set for us by Jesus Christ in His example of how we should lead our lives.
As for the existence of the so-called "Gay Gene"... I'm afraid I can shed no light on that subject. Genetics is not my forte. But I will say this: If you're a straight man or woman, is there any legislation that could be granted to establish equal rights for the LGBT community that would suddenly cause you to desire a sexual relationship with someone of the same sex? Of course not! You're either Straight, Gay or Bi - and that's the end of it.
The real answer to your question is: Knowing what you now know about your friend(s) - what has changed? Are they the same people you have always cared about and who's company you have always enjoyed? Would they cease to treat you as friendly as they always have if their secret were out? Do you care any less about them as human beings in your life? Answer these questions, and you will know in your heart what the answer to your original question is, at least in so far as it matters to you and your friends!
Good luck, and God bless.
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reader, EXPOSING LIARS +, writes (17 July 2010):
Sorry for the length, but if you really are seriously looking for “SCIENTIFIC” truth, I suggest you check this out.An "anonymous" has unequivocally stated: "bisexuality/homosexuality/heterosexuality has been shown to be linked to our genes?" Others have insisted that "we can't control" who we "love?" So what does “their own” science say?Let's start the ironic observation, in today's "intellectual" seeking society, where these same people insist they are, and we all should be seeking to be smart people and "educate ourselves" etc.. it's interesting that they would then so ignorantly and arrogantly turn around and spout such uneducated, false statements as those I pointed out at the beginning. For the sake of making sure I'm not accused of being some terrible person because I love God, I'm going to challenge those fools and demand proof of their claims based on their own science, or lack thereof. The FACT that the Bible backs up all of what I say, is merely an added bonus of righteousness that increases faith in those who believe. I am in the position to know, after over a decade of studying the very lie they insist, there is absolutely NO RESEARCH, NO SCIENCE, NO STUDY whatsoever that concludes there is a SINGLE GENETIC relationship that has anything to do with "who we choose to love?" Ask ANY SCIENTIST, and they will, (albeit begrudgingly at times) admit, nothing has been proven, despite spending TRILLIONS of your tax dollars over three decades to try and prove it.The infamous "gay GENE" is NON EXISTENT. The only place it “ONCE” existed is in the perverted minds of people like Alfred Kinsey, and a few lesser known homosexuals who conducted ridiculously FLAWED research. One tried to use the brains out of cadavers of homosexuals who died from AIDS. The very same homosexual “scientist” even admitted his research was totally inconclusive as he had NO WAY to confirm if the brains were damaged by AIDS or by all the legal and illegal drugs that all of them were taking at the time of their deaths.As for Kinsey, the only "smart" thing anyone should conclude from this man is that he WAS NOT hollywood’s kindly educator who was seeking wisdom about sexual habits of people. He was, as has been repeatedly shown, a sexual pervert himself. So much so, he even engaged in and asked other homosexuals to "show him the ropes" and "show him what they did to with children, of course, all for the sake of his "important research." Several times word got out of such perverted goings on, his funding was constantly being jerked. Nonetheless, just because lots of thieves exist in any particular area, DOES NOT MAKE stealing normal or good? What a STUPID thing to exhort as “evidence.” Especially coming from these people claiming to be so smart and portraying them as such factual edicts? Also note, Kinsey had to travel GREAT lengths to get the results of his research to turn out the way they did. If the same research style was used today, the whole thing would be laughed out of the system and thrown in the trash. It was a totally fabricated and uncontrolled study. But it made hollywood a nice portrait of their kind of man.Finally folks bi-sexuality is well known to be the worst of the worst in the case of sexual inhibitions. Although much worse in the beginning of the AIDS crisis, today, both here and across the pond, bi-sexuality is considered the most dangerous sexual act possible. In Africa where women are considered “only for procreating” and “boys are sex toys,” the bisexualism trait is raising havoc on everything society does and literally eliminating the populations of those nations where it prevails. How do you think AIDS transferred from “the original SEVEN HOMOSEXUAL MEN” in the United States, to now being more in the normal peoples lives? You can still watch the PBS 1980’s documentary that shows and proves this on their website. Better hurry though, the homosexuals will demand its removal after word gets out.Has it ever occurred to you bisexuals, especially those dishonest ones who don’t tell your normal, opposite sex partners what you really do, THAT IT IS THEIR BUSINESS that you sleep with homosexual men who still, overwhelmingly carry and spread most of the homosexual diseases today?Now I have one final question for EVERY person? Why is it so wrong to want what is proven for centuries “good” for our society? You can be ignorant and believe all the rhetoric coming from those who are basically fighting for a society where it’s a sex free for all, anywhere, anytime, with anyone or any thing you “feel” like having sex with. You CAN go ahead with that being your life’s fruit and what you pass on to the children of the future. And it may even sound really good to you today. But in the end, when all our kids are practicing homosexual behaviors, and the populations of all races is in full decline, are you going to be able to justify that ideal in your mind and heart, and still “feel good” about what you’ve left in the minds of a dying populous? And once your on your death bed and realize the obvious error, what could you possibly do about the harm you have spread in these kinds of forums? I’m afraid, if there were an ounce of honesty, or a shred of true love and caring for children and all people, then you’d be able to admit, we’re overdue to begin setting things “RIGHT” because like it or not, whether it infringes on your Friday night fun now or not, there absolutely IS a right and a wrong. The only question is, are those you can effect now going to be able to look back on your life and be proud of you, or ashamed of your willful, selfish ignorance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): I am a very strong believer that it's wrong but hear me out before you start ragging at me. I believe if a persons gay and that's it, that's fine. If a girl is a lesbian fully and not "bi" thats fine. But I believe there's no real middle ground, your either on one side or the other. So rage at me if you want but that's my opinion. Oh and I'm not an athiest like half the people who posted replies, thought that might be somewhat relevent....anyone else notice this post is like from 2006?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (1 January 2010):
 ...."and if its against gods intentions. the thing is, I don't believe in god. So far my life has been a total hell hole. I'm happy and there's nothing anyone can do about it. I'm bisexual and I'm only fricken 13."
, AxelVIII Canada...is most suitable observation, so quoted above... It is religious culture that has make our moral a little confused. Otherwise, every individual has element of both, few of male and few of female. Our true attraction is phallic...and not racial, like male race and female race...we are phallic. It is not God who decide any morals. But it is nature, where true morals is written.
Male and Female possess same one or one type of sex organ...female's organ, clitoris is counter part of male's sex organ. Male's organs has two more function apart from giving pleasure, it is urination and ejaculation for procreation...but, female sex organs has only and only single function...pleasure is the function...Such is the nature...we can translate nature's language in to our human understanding.
There is nothing wrong with same sex...it is optional matter from the stand point of Individual's choice. But any choice cannot make some one as high and other one as low. It is religious jealousy, now in our modern time we should identify.
Yes, there is certainly morals. It is about the vision we have. Our vision must be true, clear, non-contradictory...then result will be always pleasure..otherwise, confusion, contradiction, and terror will lead our life...
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reader, joanz  +, writes (1 January 2010):
It is not wrong we are now in the 21st century and we have to move with the times when I was young it was illegal to be a queer,bent or a poof and gay meant happy now I'm bi and am happy with my gay side
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reader, but i'm a cheerleader  +, writes (7 June 2009):
Nope , bisexual people are just the same as everyone else , but they are attracted to a diffrent sex. Im only 13 and i'm bisexual. It took me awhile to admit that to my bestfriend, but when i did i told her "the real deal". I explained to her i was happy with my girlfriend and that that shouldnt change our friendship because it wasnt like i was attracted to her. So you should just calm down and be happy for your friend.
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reader, AxelVIII +, writes (3 April 2009):
 no, bisexuals are not wrong at all. I have quite a few friends that are bisexual or homosexual. I think it's wrong that straight people think that bis and homo's are wrong. My mom said that she'd kill me if she found out I was bi or homo. the key word is 'if she finds out' XP I don't care what my mother says and if its against gods intentions. the thing is, I don't believe in god. So far my life has been a total hell hole. I'm happy and there's nothing anyone can do about it. I'm bisexual and I'm only fricken 13. I don't like most guys because they don't understand like girls do. I haven't kissed a guy or girl yet becuase I'm waiting for the right person.
so the answer my friend is no, bisexuality is not wrong. If you were her honest to god friend, you wouldn't judge them. My best friend told me she was bisexual with one of her best friends.we had a sleep over wither my best friend, the girl she was going out with and another one of my friends who knew about them. they cuddled with each other and I think it was so cute (and this is when i wasn't bisexual).but now I am. i saw them kissing quite a few times and i thought it was adorable. as long as the person is who you truly love then its OK. If it's just to be in the loop then thats just wrong. you can't say you don't like it unless you try it. I also started to become bi when i started reading yaoi (boyxboy anime or manga). There's this one girl who i have a crush on and she's my best friend!she doesn't even know I'm bisexual. but hey. I'm telling her after our spring break.
hope this helped.
from AxelVIII
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): HI. :)
To answer your question in the most honest approach and not from a personal approach, yes, it is wrong. Homosexuality in any form is an abomination to God. There is a great deal of scripture that backs up God's position on sex outside of the marriage as well as sex with the same gender. Even if you did not believe that homosexuality is a sin, sex between unmarried people is fornication. Homosexual marriage is not legal or biblical marriage, therefore is still fornication.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): bisexuality....humm its reli normal.
i have soooo many friends that are either gay or bi (mainly bi). i am gay ..but use to be bi and...i even have an uncle who's gay too...(must run in the family lol).anyway it very normal.
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reader, Mickii morphine +, writes (6 March 2009):
 bisexuality....humm its reli normal.
i have soooo many friends that are either gay or bi (mainly bi). i am gay ..but use to be bi and...i even have an uncle who's gay too...(must run in the family lol).anyway it very normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): No it isn't wrong
People that say it is wrong just don't have open minds and just dont care at all. It's perfectly fine for people to be attracted to the same sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): To all those self righteous so called "religious" zealots.First you are soooo confy in your heterosexual feelings that you can afford to be self righteous. "Hey i have feelings for the members of the opposite sex, and this is the way it should be" so you can afford to be bi-phobic (or homophobics) are all self righteous selfish fools. I just wish for you to wake up one day with homosexual urges so you go down from your moral high ground and start feeling what we gays or bis feel. Second God doesnt give a damn about who you are attracted to. God wants you to do good. The message of Jesus Christ is "be good to your neighbor". Jesus does not go into the details of your sexual life!! Even gays and bi's are made by God!!!
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reader, bigirl3889 +, writes (30 October 2007):
 def. not wrong! im a bisexual.. and so is my bestfriend.. we aint dating yet but shud be soon and i really have no problem with my sexuality.. god wanted me to be happy so im being happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): i myself am bi and i believe this question to be a tad bit offensive. i do not view bisexuality as wrong, and never have. i believed this even before i realized i was bi. i personally, am not very religous. but, if you are, then don't you think that god (whichever one you worship) knows what he is creating? bisexuality/homosexuality/heterosexuality has been shown to be linked to our genes, and the people who feel these things do not have a choice. it is how they were born, and do you think god would have made them this way if it was wrong?
and if you still believe it is wrong, i have one question to asked you? are you completely free of sin? what right do you have to determine whether this is a sin or not?
"judge not lest ye be judged."
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Ok first of all, the Bible does not say that GLBT people will not enter Heaven. Second of all, God knew you before He formed you in the womb. He knew your story before your parents knew that you would be born. I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT GLBT is a bad thing.
To the person asking this question. If you were truely a friend of your bi "friend" then you wouldn't even have to ask this question. You would accept both of them for who they are and not label them. If you can't do that then those two girls are better off not having you as a friend.
Third of all, not one person can say anything about the "sins" of someone who is GLBT, it is not your place. If you are truely a believer in God, then you should not judge. God is the ultimate Judge and He will judge these people. God even says in the Bible that the first person WITHOUT sin can throw the first stone. NO ONE IN THE WORLD IS WITHOUT SIN. No matter what the sin is.
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reader, Kohjakza +, writes (15 September 2007):
In answer to that question I must talk from personal experience. I prefer bisexual women because they understand what a man wants better then a hetero women. That is a fact, so don't take it persona like. Also sexual devienc is the norm now a days, so go with the flow, or have integrity, and do as you feel is right, in the end, you win.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): as a bi sexual person myself, i think that you have the right yo determine your own pathway with God. although im still not sure of it being a true sin, i am sure that you were pre-determined by God before you were even though of. meaning, if God already knew of you before you were even born, should He not know of your alternative lifestyle? i feel that my decision was not based on opportunity or following a fashion fade. but because it was something on the inside of me that not look at gender as a hinderence to find what i feel to be love.
so to answer your question, no i dont believe its no more wrong for you to be bisexual as it is wrong for you to decide what you would like to eat. just talk to your friend. you might surprised of the information you would recieve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): I am not God I am not trying to judge but,I think that Bisexual relations is wrong.I just dont think that God intended that for humans.I don't think I could ever see myself attracted to another woman .Seems nasty to me.I think alot of people just enjoy experimenting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): sex is beautiful on it's time, with some one that u love.
it should be man and woman, but we are livin on hard times, the world aroud us belongs to the devil, and it's sistem. we had learn how to be bad, to be sexual, to do what we desire, to be selfish. We may seek for new experiences, something that make us feel important, loved, unique. But we chose to live or die, the right way or the wrong way, we can let the world tougheter with it's vanity and dirty life be the way it is, but everyone of us have a choise to join it or not, if you chose the rigth way, u will find the real life and it is on Jesus the savior who make everything new. if u chose to follow him, u'll find the answer of every question, because things work better when things are on it's own space and time. we cannot imitate this world just because we live here. But wherever is our heart there are our tressures. No just bread shall eat the men, moreover men shall live by the word of God Jehova is his name, and Jesus his son, is the living word. He spoke with his life, he left the Holly Gost for us to guide us to the truth, to show us the right way.
so just prey, on God's son name, and He will listen to u, be honest and thankfull, open your heart to God, have a private relationship with God, and there u will find the peace and the answer to a lot of questions. Pray before u read the bible, u will see that God is more real than u think, he does has and answer for every question and he is perfect, but believe on his son and the one who send him. Because if not automaticly u will believe the lies of this world and it's dirty life sistem, and eventually u will live your life acording this world that is close to the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): According to the bible, which I try to follow, homosexual relationships are an abomination to God. He made man and woman to go together to be one flesh.
That said, I have gay and transexual friends. It saddens me that those people wont enter heaven unless they repent but it doesnt stop me respecting them as individuals who have the right to choose their own life styles. They have as much to contribute to society and relationships as everyone else.
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reader, bonym +, writes (25 November 2006):
 yet another typo
Biblr obviously should be Bible
r is next to e on the qwerty keyboard!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): your friends sexual orientation should have no bearing on your friendship. I have a lesbian friend myself and its never bothered me, If your feeling insecure around your friend you should try having a heart to heart with them and establish bounderies.
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reader, bonym +, writes (24 November 2006):
Here is my perspective as a Christian:
Who decides what is right and wrong? In MY view, the way I determine how to live my life is what the Biblr teaches in the New Testament, for some, faith doesnt determine how they live at all.
Morality is a personal choice and when you have your own sense of morality and beliefs then you will be able to decide what is right from what is wrong.
It is quite easy for me to come out and say that God never intended for men to be with men sexually and women with women, however, thats how I live my life and thats what I believe.
As everyone is different, and believes differently thentis question is hard to answer.
One of my good friends is gay, the Bible does not advocate homosexuality, but does that mean I disregard him as a human being? No because that would make me a hypocrite and a wrong doer.
Everyone has a different view, each to their own. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006):
Morality is following a moral code. The moral code might be boiled down to an aphorism like "benefitting the common good" but that is usually insufficent without of philospohical underpinning (for instance stealing peoples money and giving it to N+1 poor people would be permitted by such a code).
The philospohy might be based on a religious tradition in which the rationale for some of the rules might not be immediately appearent. That doesnt mean that they are any less valid.
In your question, I dont think it matter so much what characteristics they have as much as what kind of actions they take, that would be classified as "wrong".
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): Good on everyone here. Morality is really about how things benefit to the greater whole in a positive light, and principles are things you look unto yourself and say what is the most acceptable thing to do given a situation or an issue.
Homosexuality, as with bisexuality, heterosexuality, and transexuality are all just denominations of a human being's sexuality's natural preferences. It is neither wrong nor right. In my opinion, I think they are all just as they are.
It's like asking, "Is eating a banana today right or wrong?"
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reader, ellie6 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 It is definitely not wrong to be bisexual, but I can understand you're just coming to terms with that two of your friends have had sexual relations together and you are a bit shocked. I'm sure over time you'll learn to accept who they are, if you haven't done already, because it doesn't change the person they are or their friendship to you.
Bisexuality is sometimes just part of experimenting and they may, after a while, start a relationship with somebody of the opposite or same sex. But whoever they fancy or choose to go out with should not change your opinion about them as a person or a friend.
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reader, Meeh_06 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 Definitely not. None of us are the same. Some of us prefer McDonalds to Burger King, just as some of us prefer the same sex opposed the the opposite sex.
Homosexuality is an issue, but they do not have a reason to judge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): No personally i dont think it is wrong.Nobody can help with who they fall in love with be it the same sex.I look at life as being too short and go with whatever makes me happy.The ones that have the most hang up's with same sex relationships is those that live in the past and those that go by what the bible says.which is their choice at the end of the day same as if somebody is in a gay relationship.But for them to say its wrong and the bible says this or that i dont agree on.They should just turn a blind eye to it and get on with their own lives as it isnt involving them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): Some people will say it is, some people will say it isn't. There is no right or wrong answer to that question. It's like asking, does God exist? To some, the answer is no, to others, the answer is yes. Others just don't really have an opinion.
You as an adult get to make up your own mind about questions like this. Speak to people who think it is wrong, speak to others who don't think it's wrong. Speak to bisexual people, then speak to straight people. I think you'll come to your own opinion.
It's good also to have a reason for why you have the belief you do. e.g. "I don't think its wrong because... " or "I think it's wrong because... " that way at least people will hopefully respect your view.
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reader, Gwendolyn +, writes (24 November 2006):
 Why are you so worried. the reason why your friend told you is because she wants you to be in her life and she doesn't want to hold anything back. at least she's not hiting on you so I don't see what the problem is.
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reader, d4u04 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 No it is not wrong! Despite what anyone says, obviously I have very strong opinions on this topic as I'm gay myself, the only people who see it as wrong are those that don't understand it!
It's not like people can chose their sexuality, you can't pick and chose which sex you find attractive sexually or otherwise.
Gay and bisexual people are just like any other person and oestracising them by indirectly saying it's wrong is just helping to fuel the pathetic fires that bigots, homophobes and (excuse my language) arseholes, have against homosexuality!
How are people supposed to be tollerent and acceptant of others beliefs/lifestyles/etc... if these kind of people, who still say being gay is blasphemous or whatever crap they spout, still hold these ridiculous views???
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