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writes: hello.Well, long story short;I am leaving for college in 2 months. A different country (and continent) and all. I have been dating a FANTASTIC guy for 4 months now. he is perfect, i have never had such a perfect bf in my entire life. But I have recently been feeling that there is no reason for our relationship since he doesn't believe in long distance and i am not sure i would want that myself.so what should I do?should I talk to him? ask him if long distance is worth? break up? I know that i should be enjoying the time we have left, but I can't knowing it will all soon be over...
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (17 March 2009):
 If your heart isn't in it then you have to tell him for his sake - if you love him, you should at least try to make it work instead of regretting it later...
Starting college is a huge deal in some relationships, even when you live near oneanother - my partner became insanely jealous of my new friends and life when i started college and we eventually broke up - my point being is, you dont have to be long distance for it to go pear shaped and equally you dont assume things will work because you live close - anything is possible! It might well work out, if it is meant to be, it will be, if you both put in a little effort theres no reason it cant happen but just be prepared for the worst as you grow as a person and meet new people and as he copes without you - talk to him, see what he thinks.
good luck!
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Go for it....might as well try to make it work, but realize that it will end in heartbreak for one of you, as the other person meets someone new. Its a risky endeavor to stay together, but worse things have been done in the name of love. Take the risk!
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reader, Auroramox +, writes (9 March 2009):
I would say you don't necessarily need to break things off immediately with him when you move. It might be better to give yourself some time once you are in college over there to see how you feel about things with him when the distance is in place. If he means a lot to you, don't lose contact, especially if you feel like you'd really regret not having him in your life. If you're only going overseas for a matter of months, the relationship has a better chance of lasting, but having spent only four months with this guy, you probably don't have the solid base you need for a relationship to endure drastic separation.
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