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writes:I like this guy and we've known each other for two years, but we've only been friends for a month. Anyway, he keeps calling me sexy. And it makes me feel insecure since I know I'm not hot. Like, I'm not skinny and I don't have big boobs. I'm not even always pretty. And yet he calls me this. I feel like he's making fun of me, even though he says sexy with a serious face.What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): Look, just because YOU don't find yourself attractive doesn't mean anyone who says you are must be lying. If he's constantly calling you sexy with a serious tone of voice, it means he genuinely thinks you are. Also, you don't have to have large boobs or be skinny to be sexy. I have average sized boobs, and I'm not that skinny, either. Would you say I'm "not hot" because of it? I'm actually GLAD I don't look like that. After all, if every woman looked the same, what would be special about us? There are plenty of men who actually prefer small boobs to large, because large boobs (if they're natural), tend to sag more as the woman ages. Women in the media only have large AND perky boobs because they've had plastic surgery (either implants or breast lifts). I think the only thing men really care about when it comes to boobs is symmetry. Sure, there are also a lot of men who prefer large boobs, but apparently your friend that keeps calling you sexy isn't one of them. My advise is just be the best you can. Highlight your best facial features with some good makeup, and learn which clothes flatter your body the most. And if you feel you aren't skinny enough, maybe do some workouts to tone up the parts of your body you feel are too big. For example, I used to think my stomach was a bit flabby, so I started doing sit ups everyday, and now it feels toned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): If youve known him two years what do you mean by youve only been friends of a month? Have you slept with him if so he must find you attractive if you havent why not???? Has he got someone? ask him - perhaps he does fancy you but is too shy and is waiting for your response-if you fancy him go for it-if he runs off then you know he is making a fool in that case youre better off without him until you try you dont know!!!!!
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reader, tamperingtampaguy  +, writes (14 October 2012):
I am going to give you my answer and you probably wont like it. Many men are not so nice. They prey on people with low self esteem , to try and get a score. Be wary of this.
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reader, ConfusedBeing  +, writes (14 October 2012):
Different boys find different things sexy.
Have you ever thought that he could possibly mean what he's saying?
Like I understand that when you think something about yourself you don't understand how someone else can possibly like those things, but it's very possible.
Don't over-think or let it get you down, smile and accept the compliment even if you don't completely feel like it's true. Boys like confidence.
(:
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