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writes:Hello, I'll keep this as straight forward as possible.My ex (25) and I (20) broke up in August. It was mutually decided. A few months later he began dating someone for a short time, maybe 2 months, while I remained single. We didn't talk during that time. I was absolutely crushed and sent him a million shitty text messages crying saying "i love you, i hate you". Typical annoying shit that would normally scare a guy away forever. Nah, not that bad. After they broke up, him and I started talking again. Yay :)Since we started talking, we've been hanging out maybe once a week or less. We text eachother normal things like before but not as often. Like he'll send me a picture of something I like or we'll talk about some new videogame.When we hang out, there's definitely chemistry. We flirt back and forth, are completely happy, play games together, etc. It's like how we were when we dated only without kissing or sex. If him and I had never dated before, I would say he likes me/we're going somewhere without a doubt. However, we have dated so there is a sense of closeness.Him and I act like we're in love. You know those days when you and your lover are just extremely happy and satisfied? That's how we've been since talking again. If we acted this cute during the relationship, we would definitely be exchanging a lot of "i love you"s, but that's not a thing to say when we're not together.We touch eachother a lot.. like just teasing, massages, cracking eachother's back, and even cuddling. The last time I saw him we just cuddled to sleep while watching tv.Just today we hung out. Since we didn't do new years together, I decided to save my kiss for when I see him next. So I just asked him if I could kiss him. We did , very simple, and I said "happy new year". Then he smiled said "why did you ask? Just do it" and I told him that I felt like it was something I should ask. He hugged me and kissed my head and we hugged some more, etc. It was adorable :) I never get like.. romantic moments in my life, but that was movie magic lol. Anyways the whole day was just cute. We're always cute. I swear I was blushing most of the visit. I've been in love with him since we started seeing eachother back in March. I know you guys don't know either of us and this isn't even that detailed of a story. I don't think I need to go any deeper. So, my questions are1. If you've been in this situation, how did it work out for you?2. Do you think he's just acting this way because that's the only way he knows to act around me? 3. I really want this guy back. Do you have any tips or warnings on what to do next time we text or hang out.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 I say just keep hanging out... no point trying to make a game plan for winning him back if you're already doing all the right things. If you're cuddling, massaging, flirting and most importantly- just having fun together... I'd say things will most likely just happen naturally in the moment.
But don't try to rush this. Just relax and see what happens.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 If you want this guy back then you need to tell him how you are feeling. All this magic behaviour that is happening around you might feel amazing to you, but not to him. Communication is the hey so you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. See if he feels the same way as you and organise a plan where you can both work out the problems you had. Good luck.
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