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writes:Hi, my girlfriend of four years found out from a doctor over three weeks ago that she has a tumor in her ear. We were devastated by the news but we're doing the best we can to cope with it. She's already scheduled for a surgery. While sitting here, it dawned on me "Can a tumor be sexually transmitted?" Don't get me wrong, my concern for my girlfriend is very real, and we still have a healthy sex life. If anything, she's been more initiative than ever. I'm guessing she's afraid of the surgery and just wants me closer than ever before. I assured her that I'll be there no matter the outcome.I'm not sure about the different kinds of stds out there but is a tumor one?
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (2 June 2014):
 How on earth did that dawn on you? A tumour is a mutation of cells that don't die when they are supposed to. If a tumour were sexually transmitted, which it is not, it would not end up in her ear.
You are over-thinking the whole thing and trying to find a reason where there is none. Do you think she cheated on you and caught cancer? Or are you afraid that you will catch it, too? You can't. It doesn't work that way. So you need to ask yourself why you are thinking things like this. I guess that you are really scared and worried for her and need someone to talk to, as the focus is very much on her right now.
This might not be so relevant right at this moment, but you say you don't know much about different STDs. Why not inform yourself? It is so easy. You can read about them on the internet and you can go to clinics and get yourself checked out and ask questions. There's no excuse in this day and age not to know anything about STDs.
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reader, RevMick +, writes (2 June 2014):
 Hi,
Unless you often have sex with your girlfriends ear then no it isn't sexually transmitted.
A recent study showed everyone has the cancer gene, all it takes is a knock or something to trigger the cells and voila they multiply and you have cancerous tissues.
I think this stems from a concern about whether you can catch something from her, than being genuinely concerned for her well being.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (2 June 2014):
Just don't have sex with her ear and you'll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2014): I think it may be beneficial for you to use a search engine to find out what STDs are out there before you have sex again. That should put your mind at ease and also make you a lot more aware of what you're doing.
I also am concerned why you're considering it. Do you think she's cheated or are you concerned about your health?
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (2 June 2014):
 No! There are some sexually transmitted infections than can increase the risk of some types of cancer, usually cervical or womb cancer or similar, but not in the ears.
Are you asking because you are concerned she may give this to you? Or because you think she has been unfaithful? if its the latter then that shows a lack of trust - if you have genuine cause for lacking trust then that's one thing, but if you are looking for some kind of excuse to look for cheating then that suggest a problem that needs to be sorted out.
But to answer your actual question, no way this is an STD.
If in doubt always use protection: Condoms and ear muffs.
Mark
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 June 2014):
 No. If it was, how would she have gotten it in her ear?
http://www.cdc.gov/STD/
Im wondering why this in particular is your concern. Out of all the things you could have worried about, your own health is what you worry about. And also, do you not trust your girlfriend (or her doctor), and trust that IF she had anything you could catch, you would have been told?
I think you need to ask yourself why this particular question/concern dawned upon you. Sounds to me like you don't trust her, and you think she cheated on you, so you're looking for an excuse to ditch her.
Just saying.. that's what it sounds like.
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