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*eloise Reeve
writes:Did you forgive and the relationship was saved?Did you cheat, a one-time thing, and was truly remorseful and got a second chance and truly did not repeat the mistake?How did you show you were sorry and how did you make it to your loved the pain you caused?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): Regardless of what it was, it is still forgivable, the scenario you present is no different than the 2 year affair in the pain that it causes, the difficulty in forgiving, and the problems the couple go through afterward.
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reader, Heloise Reeve +, writes (15 December 2011):
Heloise Reeve is verified as being by the original poster of the question Some more info: First of all nothing happened in my relationship. I am just curious of how this type of situation works.What I mean is: let's say one of the partners has way to much to drink and ends up having some form of sex with someone else. They are the one to confess the infilelity to you themselves. And want to save the relationship and make up for the mistake they made.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): I forgave, but she didn't forgive herself.
10 years later, she still hasn't.
She can't talk about that time, can't bear to think about it.
To this day, I still don't know exactly what happened, because she can't even bear to talk or think about it.
Everyone is different...everyone. But everyone has some things in common when this happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): It is very rare for infidelity to happen just once. You either have a cheating heart or you dont. Forgiving and forgetting are not two different things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): People who cheat are not truly sorry. They are only sorry they got caught. After that, the trust has gone, and even if you stay together the magic disappears. If the cheat puts any blame on their partner for the hurt they caused, then it will never be saved. I have never heard of relationships working after infidelity. Forgiving your partners infidelity is a myth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): Why do u want to know?
What did U or Him do?
More info. this is not so clearcut.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 I forgave but it was NOT saved.
It depends on the people involved if they choose to work it out but TRUST is a big thing, once that's gone in a relationship there really is not much to salvage.
I hope this helps!
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