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writes:So I am living in Hawaii until December. I came out here for school and intended to leave earlier. I met a guy who told me he's falling in love with me. I like being around him and compared to my previous boyfriends, he doesn't annoy me. There are some things from his past that scare me and he is a little too short for me. I told my best friend all about him and she thinks I shouldn't date him (probably because I told her mostly negative things). She lives in Spain so it's not an issue of selfishness. I like doing things with him and if I call it off that will end but if I drag it on not intending to continue dating him would that be inconsiderate?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 October 2011):
 sounds like a great plan... have fun till december then re-evaluate.
Now if he says he will go with you what do you think you will want to do... because he may be hoping you ask him to go with you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told him exactly how I felt and he is okay with it. He is graduating in December when I leave and he said if anything changes then we will deal with it when it comes.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 September 2011):
if you let him know your plans and intentions and you are not leading him on, then I personally see no problem with you spending time with him. just continue to be open and honest and do not lead him on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had a dtr with him the other night and let him know of my plans and intentions....knowing that does it change if i should date him or not?
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reader, landomando +, writes (29 September 2011):
PlZZZZ dont date him! If he is falling in love with you and you have no intention of staying with him later you are going to hurt him. But if you must date him bring up that you are going to leave in december. Let him no your situation. Its so painful to fall in love and just like that its over. If you have no intention of continuing a relationship you are leading him on, that maybe there could be a future.. Basically if you start this relationship you are putting an expiration date on it.. I think that is very inconsiderate. Im a guy and i know It would destroy me.Tell him your leaving in December lets just be friends.
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