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writes: I have met a very attractive woman who is 5 years older than me. We hit it off and have done some fun activities together. We had some good time to talk about each other and our lives. Seeing how beautiful she is I have thought about what she might be like in bed. I would really like to find out. I am also interested in her take on sex. So I asked her what she thought about it. She giggled and said something rather generic answer. I don’t want to push her but I am interested in learning more about her take on sex. How can I get her to be more detail about her sex life (ie what she likes etc)? As mentioned I would really like to have sex with this woman. Perhaps her generic answer to my question means that she is not interested or ready. Maybe she is just concerned about her body. Any thoughts on that? I think she is cute. However maybe women tend to think that their bodies will not be attractive and satisfying to a man. May this be true? Are there some ways I can make her think and feel that she is attractive? Perhaps she is not ready for sex in our relationship yet and that is ok. I have dreamed about what she looks like in the nude. My birthday is coming. Maybe for a gift she would at least let me see her in the nude. Do you think a woman would think about showing a man her nude body before she is ready for sex with him? How can I let her know of my interest? Any information on making this request? Is asking if she would like a massage a good way to make her feel good about her body? I would guess that starting with her clothed and moving to where she is unclothed may be a technique. Any information…
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): Damn.. I love massage, and I recommend everyone to give one and get one as often as they can. Massages are great, they allow the body to relax and they are a perfect way to give and show love...
However the Uncles are right. You are to fast, too eager, too premature. Massages are a very intimate thing, you have to have a strong relationship first before you give them.
Dunky, dunky do.. not happy, not happy at all. You like her, she is older, you have to be more subtle and work up to being intimate first. You can't say take of your clothes cause I wanna do a massage, that won't work, she'll think you strange. If she is single and not married, then you can approach her, but you have to be slow. First start complementing her on her hair, tell her how beautiful it looks. Second step is to start playing with her hair, grab a small piece and say something lighthearted like "it feels like I've captured a bit of sun in my hand"... Third step is down to the neck (if she is comfortable, and feels happy in you touching her) you can massage her neck and make her feel good... Your moving too fast, asking her to get naked, asking to do a full body massage will turn her right off. Slowly and surely my friend, if she has no commitments, just keep touching her. Hold her hand, touch her face, her hair, all these things are good. If she doesn't like it, she will tell you straight out, be prepared for a slap in the face. But these are good moves to show your interested. Look in her eyes and tell her they are beautiful, laugh at her jokes and tell her she is funny, when she dose something clever tell her she is intelligent, put your arms around her waist and tell her that she has a sexy body. If she's interested she will respond, if she's not she will hit you and tell you to piss off. Move slowly, but be touchy feeling and give lots of compliments, if she's interested she will respond in the right way, to tell you to get closer and more intimate... Be prepared, rejection is always a possibility and then you need to back off and leave this older lady alone.
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reader, mrb41695  +, writes (20 September 2008):
 ok so i know i would hate being looked at naked i am not fatt or anythnig i am just insecure about my body and this maybe the way she feels! i have never had se beofre but i know alot of women like to ait till they are married or fell that the relationship they are in might get somewhere. the best thing to do is not to rush her but to wait till she is ready to get her input on sex well why dont you tell her about what you like during sex and maybe she will feel more comfortable telling you about what she likes!
hope i helped=]
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reader, candyluvsu01 +, writes (20 September 2008):
 are you serious?! try and be a little more mature than that....be a man not a boy.
teenagers sit around thinking about what people look like naked, pressure wemon into having sex, and ask for naked wemon on there birthday....men respect wemon enough to wait for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): Don't you think you're putting the cart before the horse here? The time to start asking her what she likes between the sheets is after you've got her there, not before!
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