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writes: Hi,I'm in sort of a sucky situation. I met a guy on vacation two years ago and we hit it off very well. So well in fact that he gave me his e-mail address and we've been chatting ever since.So next summer I'll be seeing him a lot (on vacations) and since I've developed feelings for him (or whatever you can develop through letters!) I was thinking of maybe telling him how I feel and seeing if he felt the same way.Do you think this is a bad idea? Even if he does and we decide to have a relationship, it could only be Long Distance for at least two years because I'm currently at school and can't move anywhere.I figure we kept the friendship alive and amazing for two years, so what could a relationship hurt?I don't know, I'm sort of rambling. Anyway, thoughts?! :) Should I tell him how I feel and hope he's willing to go through an LDR, or just try and forget about him and settle for someone around here?Thanks guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHm, okay. Thanks guys!
I guess I will tell him. How do I bring it up? I don't want to say "I care about you and I think we should have an LDR!" it just seems..I don't know. Argh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): LDCs are hard but sometimes they do work out. You have nothing to lose by telling him your feelings - life is too short to not take chances of love and happiness when they come along.
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reader, DannySanto +, writes (6 September 2006):
 The fact that he gave you his email address and has kept in touch for all this time show quite alot. But it could mean two things, either he really did like you and hoped to see you again one day...or hes very sad and wants to hook up again for some nooky! it's unlikely that its the latter because he did spend alot of time talking to you, and has made alot of effort to keep in contact through letters etc. so its likely that he genuinely does like you.
But you say that you have developed feelings for him. i would advise you to tell him to see if he feels the same, if he does, a long distance relationship would be the worst way to start it, but a start none-the-less.
You have to understand that a long distance relationship can be extremely hard, you'll both think of breaking it off at least once, AND you'll be tempted by other people.
Remember that if you have a long distance relationship, he'll be there emotionally and psychologically, but not physically. And no matter what anybody says...him being there for you physically is just as important as him being there for you emotionally and psychologically.
You should take that next step and tell him your feelings, but make sure you know that the downsides to an LDR outway the positives.
The decision is up to you. Good Luck!
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