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22-25,
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writes:Hi! A guy I have a crush on has extended a general invitation to hang out sometime. He doesn't know I like him and our relationship right now is just friends. However, he has a girlfriend. Just to clarify I am not allowing my personal feelings for him to affect our or their relationship AT ALL. It is the last thing I want to do to break them up. I would like to hang out with him but I want to avoid any sort of date setting. Could someone give me some ideas for somewhere we could do something together and still honour their relationship? Thanks.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 I still think that even though you have a great attitude it would be not cool to hang out just the two off you. Simply because you have feelings for him and also because his girlfriend might find it strange. Why not organize a group activity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2017): My dear young lady , I wish I had half the common sence that you have . your right in saying that he is only a crush and the fact you don't wish to split up this boy and gf . In my experance the one that splits up two people ends up not being friends with bought in the long run , I would strongly advise you to not hang around with the two of them , it will make you only worse in the long run , give them space,and even keep an eye out for other boys that do find you interesting ( I know the last thing you want is someone telling you there are plenty fish in the sea , but in this case your young and bright and any fllow would be luck and honard to have you as his gf ) one of two good things could come out of it , one could be that as they say give them enough rope and they will hang themsilvies , ( in most cases young love does not last ) second you might by the end of summer have your own bf and not even be intrested in your crush whenor if they split up.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 June 2017):
 I agree, don't "hang out" just the two of you. That would be not only smart but considerate.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (25 June 2017):
Best thing to do would be to invite his girlfriend along too - that would really be the way to honour the relationship. If she can't come..
Do not be alone with him. Invite some other mutual friends along for company.
Failing that - go somewhere very public, preferably where there are children around (Few people feel like getting frisky when there are kids running about.)
So my suggestions are: Local fair, carnival, festival, theme park, pier etc during the DAY.
But TBH - anything could be classed as a date if there's just the two of you so I advise you to take friends along too.
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