A
male
age
41-50,
*ear_full
writes:I am in relatively new relationship. It has been a month since we told each other how we felt. We had two great weeks were I have been floating on a cloud of happiness. Then things started going south since. She stopped sending me any "I miss u" texts. I keep telling her how I miss her but i never get it back. She doesn't express any feelings. I am still doing it. During a weekend she blew me of to go out with her friends and she just left me in the dark during the weekend about here whereabouts. I confronted her that I felt she doesn't care for me anymore and she said that i do not understand her and that the fact that I was introduced to her family should make me trust her cause this is a very big step for her. We made out but during the last week I didn't get any expression of any feelings whatever even though I explicitly told her during the last fight I needed that. I setup a nice day were i was going to invite her family out. A day before she had to cancel cause her mother was invited to some lady's house were she could not say no. i completely understand the situation but my problem is in her cold way. It was a short text telling me that our planned outing will not be possible because of whatever. No I am sorry, no please do not be mad , no i will make it up to u ...just cold hard facts. Then after that message i called her and didn't talk about it. I told her that I missed her and wanted to pass by her appartement just to kiss her and see her for thirty minutes. The answer I got was " No, it will take more than 30 minutes". That hurt me so much i felt my heart just shattering. My question should I confront her telling her how i felt from the way she is treating me , or should i just breakup with her and start mending my broken heart. By the way I told her I loved her twice and she never reciprocated it. I only got " You are so special".
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reader, L*  +, writes (19 September 2009):
from what you're saying , this seems like a one-sided relationship where you get to do all the 'work'. she's not really interested in you. Because, let's face it, when someone is interested s/he would let the other person know not just be cold and abrupt.
If i were you, I'd let her initiate contact and then see how it goes. Don't chase her. let her set up your next date. Don't be surprised if you don't hear from her. Sorry to be blunt, but it seems she doesn't want to be in a relationship.
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