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writes:Hi to you all! This is my first time in this website but I would like very much to receive your suggestions. I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years and we have our weeding booked for 9.7.2011. Because of his work and my studies, we have to be separated some time. He works very much in Africa. Usually he goes for 2 months and then he cames for 1 month. Everytime he goes away its a struglle for me. In the the first days he calls on skype everyday, but then stops calling or taxing so frequently. When we speak on skype he doesnt speak about what he did during the day and I feel we get more distance everyday. I already told him that for me its very important to share my day with him and to share is day also. Even if it is 5 minutes. He is a more reserved person then I, but this makes me feel more insecure and scare... I know that these are my issues. That I cant do nothing about it. Only be honest about what I feel,and tell him how important communication is to me. I did that. But its the same all the time he goes away. When we are together, I feel him very close to me. I try so much not to feed my fears! I have to confess that my heart is heavy... Can u, please, give me some advice? I love him very much, and I feel blessed to have him in my life. Thank you very much
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Your welcome, keep that insecurity in check..It sounds like you got a great man, and you're very lucky not to have any troubles, I can't tell you how posts we get on here with struggling LDRs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear tenisstar88, thank you for your answer. I know you are right.... my insecurity has nothing to do with him, but with myself. I have to improve that. I wish u all the best.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 November 2010):
There's nothing wrong with your relationship! You already know the man you're marrying is reserved, that's who he is you can't change that about him. He doesn't have to tell you every detail about his day. Heck sometimes my days are blurs I barely remember what happened, he's most likely the same. You're letting the distance get to you..Don't let it. Yeah it's hard but it's worth it because you're marrying the man you love. He still communicates with you daily, that's a good sign. Only when the communication fails then you have something to worry about.
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