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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. The first 2 months were very intense because we were so excited to have found each other and also we were living in the same city (he was here for work). Then he had to go back home, and since then we have been talking on the phone to maintain a long distance relationship. We have had our difficulties but have worked through them, and now, he says he is at a point in his life where so much is changing that he is overwhelmed. Our relationship is his last priority, and it is my first priority. He is ready to move to a new city but doesn't really include me in his plans until I ask about where I fit into his life. He spends money on lots of random things, but when I ask about when we will see each other again, he says he doesn't have money for that. He is not sure enough about me to take such a big step as moving in with me, but at the same time, a long distance relationship is not going to help us grow to that point, either. It's like we need to live in the same place in order to grow, but we need to grow before we can both move to a new city to be together. What a dilemma! Should I break it off and move on by myself even though he is the most special partner I have ever found? Should I give him time to sort out his life? Maybe I need to be more patient. What it comes down to is that he doesn't know what he wants, and I do know what I want. What do I do? Thanks for your help!
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reader, tannah12764 +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I think that this is where long-distance relationships don't usually work out. The problem with them is that there is so many different reasons why he could not want to move in with you. Men are such physical beings that after two months back home he's found someone else or a family member died or theres somthing that's keeping him from you.At most you should try to talk to him about it. Tell him your concerns and worries and try your best to come to a conclusion.If you two were ment to be then everything will work out.
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