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*poonbowl
writes:Hi there, I'm 19 and my mums boyfriends daughter is 17, for the last 6 months I've been sleeping with her every week and we've fallen in love, she stays over at my house every Saturday night, my mum and her boyfriend go out every sunday early morning till late afternoon working, we're at the point where we both really want to tell them but are terrified of the reaction we will get, I can imagin my mum saying I'm risking her and her boyfriends relationship, aswell as my own relationship with her and her boyfriend who I do get on really well with, but we're too far in to turn back and I've already considered moving out if worst came to worst even though that would be financial suicide.Should I just man up and tell them? should I wait till the end of the year when she's 18 and it might seem more casual? should I wait until I'm making enough money to move out before I tell them? I do work and it's not a bad job but it's nowhere near well-paid enough to support myself in a flat, my dream scenario is they are fine with it and I can still stay at home but not have to sneak around, I pay around £80 a time every few weeks just so I can spend a night with her in a hotel room!
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reader, chita22  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 I think the reason u guys fell hard for eachother is because its such a thrill for both of u to be together. I wouldn't say anything @ all right now wait right now because u realy wouldn't want to ruin anything. I don't realy see why they would have a problem w/this in the future there's a lot of people who marry the step sibling because they fall in love. What would they expect 2 teenagers to do. U can't help who u fall for. I realy hope the best for u guys. Right enjoy the sneaking around it makes things a lot more fun trust me on that.
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reader, spoonbowl +, writes (7 February 2011):
spoonbowl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply,
I don't think I mentioned that I did not grow up with her, my mum met her boyfriend 3 years ago when I was 16, I appreciate what you're saying as I do feel sometimes I'm being selfish towards my mum, but I don't think I can give up on it due to teen relationship statistics, why does this have to be trouble? We're both willing to be adult enough about anything if it went wrong, I plan to out the house in a couple years anyway, would they really go that crazy at the thought of 2 young adults falling in love???
The thought of sneaking around like we did today every week for the next 2 years is horrible, we WILL get caught eventually, it's a miracle it hasn't happened so far, came very close 3 or 4 times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): Do not tell them. Respect your mother's relationship. You two are teens, very young and you have time. Let your mother be happy and later in life if you feel the same way about her then date her when both of you are able to move out or something but for now you will be starting trouble for something that is less likely to last because teen relationships rarely last. Harsh? I know and I am sorry for that but your mom comes first. Again, feel free to date her later in life.
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