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writes:I am currently between my sophmore and junior year in highschool. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend, we can call her Pisces, since the 8th grade, and have had feelings for her since 7th grade, making it 3 years in a relationship this coming October, and 4 years of interest. I would like to state that I am sure that I love Pisces, and am more than prepared to spend the rest of my life with her. Now, this is where the problem arises. Unfortunately, we went to different highschools. This did indeed cause problems in our relationship at first, but we've done well to make it work for those first two years. One conflict, however, has not cease to exist. I have had other feelings for another woman, let us call her Aries, since my freshman year of highschool. It does seem to come and go, but when it is here, it is extremely strong. I made the mistake of telling Aries how I felt, and there has always been that lingering acknowledgement since. We've stayed good friends since, but I continue to have these feelings for her. I told Pisces these feelings, as I was told it was the right thing to do, hoping that it would allow those feelings to go away, to no avail. My question is, what can/must I do to rid these feelings for Aries? I believe that I owe it to my girlfriend to stop these thoughts of another woman. I truly love her and wouldn't leave her for another, no matter how strongly I feel for Aries... And I've done my best to not act on these feelings, and I still ended up expressing myself to Aries. I just fear that I will end up doing something immoral to my Pisces. I know I've dragged this out, and I apologize for that, but I wanted to give as many important details as I can. So please, what can I do to stop feelings for Aries and keep them all to my loving girlfriend?-Pollux CastorP.S. I appreciate any help I get with issue, it truly means a lot to me! Reply to this Question
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (8 August 2012):
 This entire issue seems to be a little murky to me. How can you say you truly love Pisces when you find yourself always coming back to Aries?
You're in high school. You're a kid, and your decision making process has not fully matured in your brain yet. I don't say that to belittle you, I am 17 myself, I'm just explaining why, biologically, this is diffcult.
I think you're too young to be im such aserious relationship. Your subconscious knows this and is pointing you in the direction of somethingnew. However, if you think you can work through these primal feelings, more power to you.
I think you need to cut contact with Aries. Completely. Sound scary? Well, if you want your Pisces and for your feelings to.disappeae completely I feel like that's your only real option. Stop talking to and thinking of Aries.
I hope this helped and wish you the best of luck
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