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writes:I have lived with this girl for 3 and a half years now, ever since I came to university. We have been close friends over that entire period. The problem is that I have fallen in love with her and have no idea how she feels. Neither of us have ever been in a relationship before. She is quite a shy, introverted person and has never shown any interest in guys or dating in the whole time I have known her. We once got drunk and I told her how I feel - she got upset, started crying and said that she needed time to think. That was over a month ago and she has said nothing. I still love her with all my heart and want to know how she feels. What should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): i understand were your coming from i was once in the same situatation and i never told him how i felt because i was afraid things would go wrong but those feeling dont go away i still think about him all the time and i havent seen him for over a year listen to your heart and think if its worth taking the chance if you are true friends then this will most likely make you stronger and if they dont well you wont be looking back in 50 years wondering what if dont be afrid to tell her how you feel life is to short and love is to amazing to go to wast think about what you could have good luck !!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (18 December 2007):
 I don't want to bring you down, but the fact that you told her how you feel 4 weeks ago, and she hasn't brought it back up since, doesn't strike me as a good sign.
Fair enough it might have come as a shock to her, she probably didn't expect it. She might be worried about the usual "don;t want to ruin the friendship" business.
I would bring it up again casually, just make sure she knows that it won't be awkward if she doesn't want to be with you. Just let her know that you need to know how she feels about you, so that you can concentrate on the friendship if she doesn't want a relationship.
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