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writes:So I love this boy and he was my manager. He is 25 and I am 24. Two years ago, he started working at the theatre since he replaced our previous manager that just got fired. In the beginning, we didnt really talk, the only time we even spoke was a couple of words. As the year progressed, we really careda bout each other. He would always cheer me up, talk to me about things that were on his mind, gave me a promotion, and always had a smile on his face when we would work together. There was only a couple of problems: he had a girlfriend of 7 years who always fought but they have been together since senior year in high school. They had problems for hte two years and he always ignores her, avoids her, and used work as an excuse to not come home. They dont even walk hand in hand or show hardly any afffection but hes still with her. When I was with her, he used to always say things to me such as: FOr just one day I just want you to be happy, he was always jealous when customers or even the other manager said they liked me. He kept playing with my emotions. HE put his id around my neck and left the building with a smile on my face, and said you'll always have a number one stalker. So Last year, when I finally got accepted to a school I was transferring to, He stasrted crying and then he tried kissing me but I turned my head away because I knew it wasent fair to me and his girlfriend. On my last day, we got into a disagreement in the office and I told him I wasent coming back to work at the theatre because he kept telling everybody that I was when I wasent. Then he made his vacation on the same wekeend when I was leaving. So I wrote him a letter because by that time, i was already hurting and just really depressed and stuck because this took over me. I pretty much was letting him go and told him that he needed to figure out where I stood in his life, and that whatever decision he made Id always be happy for him because I loved him and would always miss him. Id take everything he gave him and always have a smile and fulfill his promise .. to be happy .. Then, his face was so stunned, and I left the office.. The next day, I came to say goodbye to everyone.. He looked angry avoided me.. and then I found out he was asking my good friend Andrew questions about me.. and d I know I was wrong for writing a letter when I should have told I just didnt want him to see the look in my eyes and it was so hard to tell him because of hte circumstances and I couldnt break the employee and manger rules at the theatre. So even after all of that, I found out a week later by other coworkers that he decided to move in with his girlfriend and transfer to rockaway .. he decided to take that promotion. I mean every day it gets easier but I need closure.. I want to be friends with him but yet, were so far away .. I just dont know what to do . SHould i still try to contact him or just leave it where it is now.
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reader, Sal84  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 It seems you have taken mild office flirtations for love. You know this manager has his gf since 7 years and although there are ups and downs in his relationship he seems to be handling it quite well.Mild office flirtations often happen(even with people who already have other gfs and bfs. They normaly remain that way or end up in one night stands or hidden affairs but they can never result in true ralationships.Your managers has his priorities set out, it about time you too get yours straight.I know it hard for you as you took it seriously but it time to let go and move ahead. Believe me, you might just bump into that special someone who is probably not hooked and is going to take good care of you for the rest of your life. But first let go of this:-)
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