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writes:Hi, I have been having the same dream over and over for the last 5 nights. The dream involves both my children, myself, but not my wife, It's another woman in my dream in her place.. We have been having issues for a long while now. We have also been married for 2 years. People talk about the first years being the most happy, but it hasn't been at all.First of all we separated for 6 months, about a year into the marriage, I really think we rushed into our marriage (but that is besides the point) and while we were seperated, I met a wonderful woman, I literally melted with every smile, but I did the same thing with my wife, when I was chasing her around before we got together... I was wonderfully happy for those 6 months without my wife, but the problem was I missed my little daughter, I cried every time I saw her picture.. I missed her dearly and wanted to be close to her no matter what the cost, so I worked things out with my wife and I explained to the other woman that I couldn't live without my daughter.. And there are issues I had to work through inside my heart, before I could give it away so freely again.You see I have 2 kids, one boy and one girl, now my wife has been with me since my son was 6 months old, He is from another relationship. He is my heart, I share time with his mother, literally 31 days here then 31 days there (his mother lives 11 hours away) until he starts school, then that's another fight, but I'm starting to think that I stayed with my wife just so I wouldn't have to be away from another child.. I dont know anymore.. I do love my wife, but I think I'd be happier with the other woman even if that meant losing yet another child. I mean they will always be my kids.. And I love them with all my heart. Don't get it wrong I love my wife, but I don't see myself with her forever, and sometimes it feels like a bad dream and maybe that will change but as of this second, I know I'd be happier with the other woman..With the highest regards,In love with my kids and another woman. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 When you went on your 6 months split and you met that new woman, did your relationship progressed quickly? Have you done much stuff together, do you think you got to know her really well? It generally takes about a year to really get to know a person, and about 2 years to know whether you want to share your life with that person. If you don't see yourself living with your wife long term I suppose there if no reason why you should be married to her and waste her life too. If you do get divorced, try not to rush into another marriage straight away though, I think its a good idea to get to know the person you will be spending the rest of your life.
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