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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We have our fights, but I feel like they are more often than should be in a normal relationship and they are becoming more frequent. I have a very hard time communicating without getting upset so I know that we equally share blame for these fights. I'm also a very emotional person and he is not. This makes it hard on me. My boyfriend is also a police officer and every time he goes to night shift for 4 months we have a hard time making it through. I'm not a big fan of his best friends. and I'm kind of a loner where he doesn't like my friends either, and he is very social. We're so different that it creates a strain on our relationship. Do you have any advice to make this work. We're crazy about each other and we both want it to last. We do plan on getting married in this next 1-2 years, but only if we can save our relationship in time.. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy emotional, i cry. I rarely get angry. I've tried over the years to be better at this, but i'm afraid emotional and poor communication is just who i am. I'm not confrontational and discussing important things or things that make me upset is just always going to be hard. I've gotten slightly better, but not enough and i keep trying, but it's very hard to me. and his night shift isn't just 8 hrs. he works from 530 in the evening untill about 9 in the morning, and then he sleeps till like 3 gets up and goes again. When he does listen, everything goes in one ear and out the other. he promises to be better about things and is for a week or so.. and it goes right back to how it was... Your answer was helpful, but i dont think i put enough detail in the question.
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