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writes:I'm in love with a girl and we get along really well and we're close but she's already going out with one of my best friends.Do i ask her out and lose a friend or keep it to myself and never know what would've happened?
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reader, emilymarie26  +, writes (20 November 2009):
Honeypie is totally right, you should wait until they break up and then check with your friend before making a move. She's not worth ending one of your best friendships for. Besides, if she was willing to go for you while in this relationship, chances are she won't think twice about doing the same thing to you in the future. Then you're out a girlfriend and a best friend.
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reader, Zero_Virus +, writes (20 November 2009):
It's not worth it, I can tell you from experience. I liked this girl in high school A LOT, but it turned out she liked my best friend. My friend went out with her (not even considering how I felt) and it tore me up. He eventually broke up with her. This was about 6 years ago, we've gotten past it but the experience is not worth it. DO NOT ASK HER OUT, find someone else and keep your friendship.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 November 2009):
 If you ask her out you might get a no - loose her -and the friend.
To be honest I think you need to think on quite a few things here.
1. Morally - she is already involved do you really think it is right for you to start anything with her?
2. Put yourself in his shoes.
3. What if she says sure I'll hang out with you, what does that say about her? When will she decide to ditch you for one of you other friends?
4. You can not live in What If world.
Be realistic. Be a good friend. A man who doesn't stand for anything will fall for anything.. Ever heard that expression? Have some self respect. Don;t settle. And last but not least, have some morals, and values and self control.
Now if they break up, I suggest you ask your friend of it is ok to ask her out, if he is ok with it go for it, but don't chase girls who are already taken.
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