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writes:hi i have a problem there is this guy who is my friend. recently i have been feeling towards him deeper feelings.he is in and out of a going no where relationship. he likes the girl but she doesnt really care and has other relationships. he even told me that he is thinking of leaving her. i cant tell him of my feelings because he introduced me to his cousin who asked me to be his girlfriend, i refused and my friend started to try to convince me to accept.he sort of knows now and im not sure what to do or what not to do i dont want to lose his friendship and his friendship isnt enough.i am meant to be leaving the country in two months but that to be honest stands upon him. if he is willing for a relationship i will stay . please what do i do
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reader, nadine hillside +, writes (27 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
I to have been in the same situation such as phoebe and you, i know it's hard whether to tell him how you feel or to just leave it at friends but you need to know if he feels the same way. If you leave the Country to go to a new one you may later regret and hate yourself for not finding out how he feels.
Like Phoebe said you only live once so why not go for it you have nothing to lose, but if you ask him and he says he doesn't feel that way just say to him i hope this hasn't affected our friendship can we still be friends.
And you never know maybe after saying that to him he might start feeling the same way you do and he might ask you out if he does jump for it but please never hesitate to ask anyone anything because you never know what could happen.
i hope everything works out. Goodluck.
Nadine
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (20 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
I have been in exactly the same situation and what I can best advise is when your friendtrys again to get you to accept being his cousins girlfriend, tell him you said no because there is someone else you like. Little hints like this can go a long way.
What are you meant ot be leaving the country for? Or is it better that we don't know?! (just a tiny joke)
Does he know how much you like him? Or does he think it's only him thinking weird thoughts and "you're his friend, of COURSE you don't like him .. or maybe ..."
I sent these little hints to a freind of mine I fell for and he caught on, he admitted he liked me too and asked me out. I accpeted and it was great because we both knew each other really well and knew just how to make each other smile and we lived a few houses apart too.
I'd say go for it. You only live once and if you think you'll both be happy then what have you got to loose. If he says he doesn't like you in that way then ask him if you can still be mates and who knows, maybe you can find your Prince Charming when you go out of the country. Or it could turn out Happliy Ever After over here!
Good Luck,All The Best and Blessed Be,
Phoebe
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