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anonymous
writes:There's a lot going wrong in my life right now. I'm in love with one of my friends. I know that it's not going to work out because I'm kind of quiet and awkward and she's rejected guys more attractive and popular than me. So what should I do? I've already tried to get over her but that just hurts even more, because every time I get her out of my head, there she is, and it just brings everything back. Is there any way I can make it stop hurting? I've tried a lot of things to try and make it go away... I've done things I'm not proud of. Please don't judge me, I really need help. I'm also extremely lazy and I do basically nothing with my life, which has made me believe that I am a loser with a pointless life. I'm in a play in which I have to kiss her sister and I just try and pretend I'm kissing her. For a few short seconds, it's complete bliss, but then I open my eyes and it's not her and it starts hurting again. Do you think there's any hope for this relationship? I'm just a freshman, so there are still 3 more years to go... but it just feels like it's hopeless. I just don't know what to do. Without her, I feel like I can't do anything. But on the other hand, being a writer with an idea for a novel, I feel like this novel is what I'm meant to do in life and maybe if I can finish it and get it published, maybe things will change. What should I do? Get over her? Give up? Keep trying? Just bear with the pain? Write my novel and see what happens as a result? Please, I don't know what to do.
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reader, tux +, writes (1 March 2009):
 There's no hope for this relationship, if you do not do anything about it. If you like her so much, you need to step out on that ledge and take the plunge and tell her how much you like her and that you want to have a relationship with her. You need to make that step. Forget about all the boys, she has rejected, forget about all that. She may just not like these popular guys because she doesn't think she can trust them. Perhaps you could be that one guy who she doesn't reject. You never know unless you go for it. Do it now! Don't wait around because you have 3 more years to do it. If you wait, you may just miss out on your chance because she decided to say yes to some other guy.As far as you being extremely lazy, do something about it. Change your circumstances, change your lifestyle. Stop being lazy. and You are still young, not every 14 year old has their life made yet just as any 18 year olds do either. You don't need to worry about where you are in life until after college. But you have the power to change your direction, do what you need to do.. and definitely if you like her so much, let her know.. You're a writer... write her something sweet.. tell her if you really like her.Please keep us updated.
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