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writes:i am 14 now,in love with my english teacher.Actually i really care for her.I feel for her.Her sadness makes me sad too.Whenever i see her there are butterflies in my stomach.i stammer while talking to her.i just want her to be my best friend and care for me.nothing much though!(no dirty thoughts).Recently i have found out that she likes a girl and really cares for her,who happens to be my friend.i am very sad and depressed.i want her to know my feelings but i am scared that's going to ruin our present relationship.pls pls help me out...
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reader, fitbabe1987  +, writes (19 July 2014):
I agree with Wiseowl. be careful what you say. You are implying here that your teacher likes your friend, as more than a student. i agree, that if you are crushing on someone, you start to fantasise, and are imaginging she likes your friend more..
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2014): You are just a young child going through one of many crushes to come. You are creating things in your imagination.
Your teacher isn't supposed to choose favorites or openly show she likes one student over any other. If she does, she is going to get into a lot of trouble. I think your imagination is running away with you; and you are jealous only because another student is receiving the teacher's approval for her good work.
You have to be careful saying the kinds of things you're saying in your post. You can get a teacher in a lot of trouble; and if you really like her, you don't want that to happen.
It is inappropriate for an adult to show any unusual affection for a child your age. She could get fired. So be very careful making such comments openly. You've got too much time on your hands, when you should be enjoying your friends and doing things children your age should be doing.
Not crushing on adults who cannot return the kind of affection that is appropriate for you.
The teacher is only being nice to a student, and because she isn't treating you the way you want her to, you feel she likes the other student better. Be very very careful, adults will take what you're saying the wrong way!
Read a book, stay busy, and do your school work. You need adult affection; that's what your parents are for.
Keep your mind focused on your schoolwork and behaving yourself. Time will erase your feelings for the teacher. You don't "love" your teacher. You're all only her students, and you only see her at school. You're not old enough to understand your feelings; so just ignore them for now.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2014):
 Hi well let me begin by telling you that this is a complete normal part of growing up and you have nothing to worry about. A lot of teenagers find that the have a crush on teachers. Teachers are there to help and guide us towards our future they are trusted adults and that is why plenty of teenagers develop feelings towards them. I understand at the moment you are feeling like your heart is breaking but believe me you will look back on this crush and smile in a couple of years.
I am unsure where you heard that she has feelings for one of your friends but this is not acceptable. A teacher has a very important role to play in students lives and they cannot show any signs of anything more than a friendship. If this seems to be going in that direction then you need to talk to a trusted adult and tell them your concerns as that student needs to be protected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2014): First of all, this isn't love, you admire her and it's turned into infatuation. It will fade over time, just don't confess to any feelings to anyone else.
Secondly, what do you mean she "likes" your friend? Do you mean she is friendly to your friend, or does she do more "romantic" things with your friend? It's very important because your teacher may be overstepping her legal boundaries....
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