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writes:I've been in love with my best friend for about 4 years, and its getting too much to bare, and I need some advice!We're both 18 and single, and have known each other for about 15 years, since playschool really, but only best friends for about 8 years.When I was about 13-14, I went on holiday and really missed him and couldn't wait to get back home to see him. And since then we always meet up and text each other constantly, even about random things, like whats the weather like where we are. The problem I have is that, I know he doesn't feel the way I do because every one says that we would make a great couple, but he denies it and says I'm like a sister to him. Its really frustrating! He even set me up on a special date with a guy from college tonight, its like I'm banging my head against a wall. A few of our mutual friends, who know how I feel say it might be different if I just ignore him and let him see what it would be like without me, like a few months when I move to university but I'm not sure, Anyone who's been in this situation, any advice?!
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reader, Rae18 +, writes (24 January 2009):
you know what, reading this sounded just like one of my own diary entries!
I have a best friend and up until recently ive felt completly and desperatly jealous of his girlfriends, and i thought it was fate, we were soulmates. The only problem is he didnt feel that way about me.
Its hard to accept it, but i just have to remember that we have something so much more important-our friendship. His girlfriends know that theyll never stand in the way, and he'll always put our friendship before any fling.
So il bet anyone he dates is bound to be insanely jealous of you!
In the same way,if he does like you as more than like a sister, cos its possible, he'll be envious of any of your dates. Im not saying to make him jealous or anything; just try to focus on your amazing friendship for the time being, and if he changes his mind, he'll let you know. Enjoy dating other people, and maybe your feelings will change and youll realise that you misttook your close bond with something more.
But good luck, whatever happens, i hope youll stay best friends for years to come and im confident itl work out alright.
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