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writes:I have a major issue, and it's pretty deep so here we go.I'm in love with my best guy friend.The real problem is.....I'm 18 and he's just now getting ready to turn 17. I just graduated from high school and we still talk and hang out but it's a little harder now. Another thing is he has a girlfriend who also happens to be his best friends cousin. We are all really into music and are starting a music group together.Him and his girlfriend have been having problems and the only girl that's really there for him is me. He said I was the only one who laughs at his jokes. He seems to flirt with me then stops then start up again.I kinda want to tell him how I feel but it took him months to get me to say I love you in just a friendly manner. I don't know how to tell him this. Not to mention I've never had a boyfriend. Any advice???
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reader, egyptian girl  +, writes (26 July 2008):
First of all ...if u know he really loves his girlfriend plzz don't do anything to let them break up because if u did and he noticed that u r the reason why they broke up he will really hate u and will never think of u !!!
so i think what u should do is don't tell him anything about ur feelings and just be his bestfriend because if u told him about ur feelings u may lose him all the way !!!
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reader, dormatron +, writes (20 June 2008):
A relationship with your best friend could be amazing. I hear from couples all the time that they were best friends before they were in a relationship and how great it is.
However, I was in love with my best guy friend for four years. I finally told him because it was getting ridiculous and I couldn't hide my feelings anymore. He did not feel the same. We haven't really talked since. Every once in a while he texts me or sends me a message asking what's going on and we have pleasant conversations. But the fact is that the friendship is not the same and it never will be again.
Just be warned that if you tell him and he does not feel the same it will be extremely hurtful and could possibly spoil your friendship. Be sure you want to do it before you do and think about the consequences: good or bad.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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reader, Kiita  +, writes (20 June 2008):
Just tell him how you feel. I got trapped in a situation like that for 10 years just to find out that he felt the same. And if he doesnt, be sure that it will not affect your friendship. Of course it will be funny at first, but then it'll become normal again.
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