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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I feel like he does not trust me and if he doesn't now than he never did! anyway, if he doesn't trust me it makes me think that he doesn't love me or wants to break up. He gets all mad and jealous for the stupidest things. I get a comment on my pictures on myspace or facebook from a guy I know and he's already doubting my love and saying that he's "tired of seeing the same thing" (meaning the guy commenting my pic) we have gotten into arguments for this already because I tell him I love him that those are just comments and guys that i know and that in the end i only love him but he doesn't seem to understand. every time it happens it brings me down and makes me feel guilty of having any guy friends. Even if he sees a guy talk to me online he starts asking me "who's that?" and "he's trying to hit on you" I love my bf very much but i'm getting tired of his insecurity and i don't know how to make things better and make him understand i love him. I barely have any guy friends cuz of him just cuz i love him and want to avoid arguments and yet i don't complain when he talks to girls. He tells me girls are different and guys will only try to hit on me if I talk to them but yet girls he talks to are "good" girls. WTF i don't know what to do or think I think it's better if we are apart so i won't have to be worried or sad cuz of stupid reasons like these but it hurts too much to let him go. we have also been through a lot together and our families love us. what should i do? i love him but his jealousy is too much to deal with but without him i will be sad too. i'm so lost. He even repeats to me almost everyday that i won't find another guy like him that if i break up with him he might find another girl and not want to come back with me and that maybe other guys will be bad and hit me and not treat me the same as him. He says he is a good guy and that his female friends tell him they wish they had a bf like him so i'm lucky. He is also my 1st boyfriend i didn't have any relationships before him and we have been together 4 years. I have always thought i would marry him but lately I have 2nd thoughts and i'm afraid he's also right that I won't find a guy like him again and i could lose him forever. I need advice I'm in a really crappy situation and feeling...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
You are right to be concerned about this behaviour. You are allowed guy friends, in the same way that I'm sure he hs female friends. He's being controlling, and if you don't make it VERY clear now that you won't tolerate being accused of not loving him and won't tolerate having your friendships controlled by him, he will continue to control you in other ways. Personally, I think you should seriously considering leaving him. A man who doesn't let you be yourself is a man who isnt worth the time or effort. There are other great guys out there who are secure and will not only accept that you have male friends but may even make an effort to get to know them. The guy you're with now needs to sort himself out.
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