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writes:I'm going through a very complicated relationship...I love her a lot.. I have been there with her for a quite long time about 8 months now.. She was my friend at first but I fell in love with her later on.. She had a bf and she loved him a lot.. but this bf wasn't faithful enough but she stayed with him in a hope that he would change one day..I was with her and stayed with her helped her when she needed someone to support her and help her out.. Soon she also started to love me(but I wasn't sure about it).We have been very close to each other.. We have kissed each other.. When we kissed for the very first time she regretted it because she thought that she had betrayed her boyfriend and felt really very bad about it.. That kiss came outta nowhere.. We didn't know until we had kissed.. But that was a long time before..She feels a lot for me but this bf came back and said he had changed now! She is still with him but talks to me and we recently met and I have kissed her again but this time she doesn't have any regrets about.. It was one passionate kiss! She says that she cant leave him like this because he will get hurt badly and would hurt himself if she left him... I guess she has feelings for him because she has had a relationship for around 5 years with him!I love her truly and I'm waiting for her but sometimes I get a feeling that I'm going to lose her but I know I won't.. But I gotta tell you friends, I have that hollow feeling in me because she's not completely mine..I know how much I matter to her, she has fought with him over me, because he had talked to people about me talking to her!I don't understand what should I really do, I'm in a big dilemma and I don't wanna give up on her and I also know that this bf won't let her go that easily.Does she truly love me, how can I figure it out?What can I do to make her mine, not in any diplomatic way but in a true way!Is it that she will not love me and loves her bf only?I know this is a long long story but I tried to mention everything in detail so that you people could help me out in a better way with Ur advice's..Please Help me out..Thank You..
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (12 January 2013):
 Until she's really free and clear of her encumberance at the hand of this (other) guy.... I'd give her all the space she wanted... and I'd focusing on finding a real girlfriend who knows who she is and what she wants.... AND the "who she is and what she wants" is compatible with who YOU are and what YOU want.....
Good luck...
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 January 2013):
 Find someone else. If she truly wanted out of the relationship, then she would be out of the relationship.
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reader, bunny2k35  +, writes (11 January 2013):
Mate I am the the same as this girl.I am married and fell for a friend. I say stick it out a little longer but my advice is give her a strict timescale. You must stick to it.My husband has given me threats saying he is going to harm himself, as I have left him. But tell her from me, it's words, it's a mind game to keep her there If she doesn't work things out by your timescale then you will have to face facts. If she loved you enough she would leave him.I did it, so I know it can be done x
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 January 2013):
Sorry, but I don't think there is much you can do until he dumps her. She is the type of girl that needs that type of guy.
You are great because she can't deal with her emotions all by herself, so she cries on your shoulder when she needs to talk and kisses you when she needs her "mini-revenge" and somebody to make her feel special.
You're in an all too common predicament my friend; the nice guy who would be better for her but loses out to the jerk that breaks her heart.
The best thing you can do is move on and date other people. Then if they break up for good maybe you'll have a chance.
But there is no way to steal her away from him.
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