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writes: I dunno how I got involved with 3 mens... but one thing for sure, this is definately no fun!! And this is giving me heart burn. At first we were just friends, and as we spend more hours together, they got emotionally attached to me. I tried to "break off" with them in a way which is gentle enough so that they won't have their ego bruised, but to no avail. They just won't let me go. Please show me a way in which i could break free from them, and remain friends after (I really wouldn't want to lose them as friends as they are really good people)... I really need help right now as I have sleepless nights... and I felt very tainted being "in love" with 3 men... Please help me!! Reply to this Question
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reader, pashun8tly +, writes (29 June 2006):
Well, girlfriend, you top me on this one...Dang, I have a problem with loving one man, let alone 3 of them! But if you can separate yourself with your emotions, man you got it made!!!
But be careful on this because you know how possessive mens can get, just try not to let it be known or things can get even mighty uglier.
I know three wrongs (hee hee) don't make it right, but also remember men have been doing this shit on us for a mighty long time!
If you really serious about breaking it to them, make sure it's a clean break leaving nothing lingering in their minds. But don't ever tell them you have other 2 dudes on the side or they'll go ballistic.
Say, you know, you got lot of thangs going on in your life right now and you need to focus, you don't want anything serious right now. So if one man sees you with another, it will make better sense. But make sure they understand this and don't leave them with any thought of how you love them or it's so hard, etchetera, etchetera.
Remember be careful, love triangles in these cases "quadrangle" (hee hee) can be scary business & most often times than not result in crimes of passion. Just watch yourself, chica!
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reader, bemused  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 Do you have any available single friends whom you might steer these guys to.It sounds me to me like you might like the rush that you are getting from this and it is probably feeding your self esteem.Is there one of these men who stands out that you might care about. If not then it may be time for you to be on your own for a bit, away from the pressure and the confusion.Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): Well different people have different concepts of what love is. Her connection with these three men is what she would have truly loved if it were one person. Most people in this world are 'missing' things ideal in a partner. This Hazee simply finds the missing things spread out in three different people. Mind you, her 'love' may just as be diluted as ink and buckets of water.
That's why a step towards utopia would be polygamy. Mind u, I'm not for this, but just objectively looking at this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): You can't really be in love with the three of them. Yes you feel a connection with them and possibly enjoy all the attention. However, you are playing with these guys emotions. If you felt real love then you would only want to be with one person. Maybe at some point you were hurt badly by a guy and are now afraid of commitment. Yes it's hard work for you and stressful trying to juggle three realtionships(one is difficult enough!) but at the end of the day it would be really hurtful for these guys to find out the truth. Forget about the friendship issue because in the long term you will do them more harm. Be fair to yourself and to them and cut all ties. If you continue to do what you're doing then things could get nasty for you threefold.
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