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writes:I need some help please! Me and my girlfriend of a year recently split up - it was her decision - I still want to be with her. We still love each other but she didn't want to have to worry about being involved with anybody too much, which is why we parted. She still wants to be friends and I do too but I think it would be better to have no contact because when we start to see other people it will be too hard to cope with. What about no contact for a few weeks? I really want to see her again. Good idea being friends with exes?Any ideas welcome! Thanks in advance for the advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): Dude, I really think personally, it's best to completely disappear, go cold turkey. Just disappear and move on if you have to. I'm in a similar situation, and then I eventually got over her and moved on. I heard from the grapevine that because I cut off ALL contact with my ex and disappeared, she went into not only a deep depression and got a broken heart and was crying, overwhelmed with sorrow and regret, but I don't care about it anymore.
Trust me dude, just disappear and look out for numero uno. me personally, I have better things to do than chase somebody who doesn't want me. As in, don't return any of her calls, or just be busy, and eventually you will forget all about her, like I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): Don't stay in contact.. even as friends. I did that with an ex who i was with for 4yrs.. When i found out he was with someone else, it killed me inside.. Jus watching them all loved up and happy really upset me.. and it made me get involved with sumone who i wasnt really interested in or fancied.. but went out with this guy jus to prove to my ex i could move on too.. only i was jus on a rebound..i ended up hurting an innocent person who had nothing but true intentions, where i was trying to find something from someone who i honestly didnt feel attracted to in a any way.. 3 yrs down the line, I'm still single, he's still with his partner, with a kid now.. but i try to avoid going to places where i know he will be.. although u may think at the time any type of contact is betta than no contact whats so ever..but jus that little so called "only friends" contact will cause so much pain.. u will start to question ur ability towards others..think about it realistically..! I'm happy on my own, not knowing anything about him.
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reader, Kierra48 +, writes (29 June 2006):
This same thing happened to me.Me and my boyfriend broke up and I still wanted to be friends with him.Let me tell you what I think.I think it is better to just stay apart for a while.Because if you try talking it will lead to jealousy and you will want to get back together with the person even more.And when she doesnt want to it will make your heart hurt more.So try not talkin to her for a while and see how it goes!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 I tried being friends with my ex and it worked for about 5 seconds. She would get calls and texts from other guys and it would drive me insane. Finally, I just had to cut off all contact and move on. She said she respected my choice and would leave me alone. Don't put your all into what she wants you are included in this broken relaitionship and your feelings matter to. Do what's best for you and consider her later because you have to live with you she doesn't. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): The same thing happened to me with my b/f, he didn't want to be with me and I still feel for him. Sadly you have to think about the fact that it's what she wants. I'm still coping with my break-up but I have coped with it the best I can. I tried everything to make him want to get back with me - I tried to make him feel guilty, I asked him if there was any chance for us in the future - you name it I tried it. He contacts me still but I can't stand it so I kept my distance for a while hoping he'd miss me. It's obviously a commitment thing I'm guessing. Be strong and try not to stress because it is hard - maybe if you stop all contact you'll feel better and if there is any chance for you she'll come back. I hope this helps.
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