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female
age
36-40,
*isha Punjabi
writes:I love a guy from past 7 years and we wanted to get married but because of different caste our families are against us but we both cannot live without each other.....And he is one who earns in his family so I am confused that what should I do if I am getting married to him then I am tensed about his family, that who will take care of his family........?So I have decided to give a second thought for our marriage. He loves me a lot and we cannot imagine life without each other.Please help, what should I do? Should I be selfish and get married to him or should I kill my feelings and leave him.......... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): You have been with him for 7 years, wow!If you have lasted that long then I am sure there is something there..don't give up now cause if you do you might regret it later and blame your family for it..you should be responsible for your life,so even if in future something happens you shouldn't blame anyone else, instead know this was my decision and I will handle it..and I know coming from 'India' caste,religion matters a lot,but don't succumb to it..you both need to try and make your parents understand.. and not let them make a choice for you!Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): Look, dear there are two simple ways. The first one is to be selfish and marry your lover. The other one is to suffer every moment of your life because of marrying someone you don't love.Before taking any decision just ask yourself, are you capable of bearing the excruciating pain of letting go the love of your life for some stupid caste difference? Will you be happy to see him in pain as well because he's separated from you?In today's world this 'class-difference' theory or the very application of the same has no relevance and is absolutely mindless. Don't worry for his family, he's matured enough to fend for his family somehow, may be in an indirect manner.The bottom-line is MARRY THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE because true love is very hard to find! Everything will get back to normalcy once you've had a child.(Saying this from a personal experience: my cousin married a guy from a different caste and situation was apparently horrid but after the birth of my niece, the families have sorted out their differences.)GOOD LUCK!
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