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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My dad somehow got into my phone and read my messages with my boyfriend and my best friend (who I tell EVERYTHING to). He found out that I was dating him and that I had kissed him. My parents are totally against "casual" relationships. They think that relationships should be about marriage. But I'm sixteen. And that is the reason, they think, that I shouldn't be dating. They said that I'm already "impure." Just because I kissed him. They get so angry...And they don't understand what I'm going through. I'm depressed, angry, and confused...It's killing me. They are going to stop my texting plan for my phone and they said if they ever see us as much as holding hands they would take me and move. MOVE back to INDIA. I don't know if this was out of anger or if it was actually serious. And they even said that they know people at my school to keep an eye on me. I don't know what to do. I like this guy with all my heart. And he's my friend. And to top it off, they're bipolar. First, they were super angry. Then they were a bit understanding, saying I could go on group dates or whatever with him. Then they were angry again. Super angry. What do I do? How do I cope? I couldn't sleep last night. I don't want to break up with this guy. I just can't think any more...
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (20 November 2012):
 I feel for you, you're in a tough situation - But you're still a minor, and you have to be obedient to your parents - while you're still living at home, and they're supporting you.
When you're eighteen, it will be a different story. You'll be legally an adult, and they wont have as much of a say-=so in what you do. They wont be able to haul you back to India, or control who you date - but they will have the right to tell you that as long as you live under their roof, you'll abide by their rules, so be prepared for that.
I know it's hard to understand right now, but the boyfriend you have when you're sixteen, is most likely not the man you will end up marrying one day - so don't ruin the relationship with your parents over him.
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