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anonymous
writes:me and my cousin she is my first cousin,iwas attracted to her since childhood.she is atleast 7 years younger to me .now we had almost 10 years of relationship.we love each other and often had sex.now problem is we cant marry and she says that she wants to marry me and otherwise threatens me of consequences.she says she had sex or relationship as she always considered me her future husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): in islamic soceities & western soceity in 19th century and previous, marriage between first cousins held little in the way of taboo
the genetic risks faced by offspring are minimal unless your parents are also offspring of a first cousins-sexual relationship.
If you love your cousin and want to marry, you should go to another state or country (it's legal in the uk for example)
However if you don't really love her or want to marry her, then I doubt anyone on this website can help you to keep a good relationship with your cousin as you reject her
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): Well, marriage among first cousins in the UK us fairly common, Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip are first cousins. It is not a union which is really frowned upon within western Europe. Also, there is not a very great risk of deformities when cousins have children, as there is enough 'new blood' in the pool to lessen the chance of genetic diseases becoming prevailent in the children (one of the reasons deformities are rife in brother-sister relationships, is that both parties may be a carrier of a corrupt gene, which can have a 1 in 4 chance of becoming prevailent in their offspring (it's on the same lines as to why parents with blue eyes may have three blue eyed, and one brown eyed child)).I don't know what the laws are where you live, or if this is the reason that you 'can't' marry though. Any chance of elaboration?[MODERATOR NOTE: The Queen and Prince Philip are NOT first cousins. They are third cousins through their great-great-grandmother Queen Victoria, and have another family connection through Christian IX of Denmark that makes them second cousins once-removed through that connection. We wouldn't want to libel Her Majesty, would we?]
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): If you feel that marriage is the way to go, then go ahead. However, both of you have to be prepared for the backlash. Your family is definitely going to angry, because it will be considered a breach of acceptable behaviours.People, on the whole, will not support such a union because it is not acceptable in Western society.You run the risk of your offspring having a genetic disorder. Even if the child is born without disabilities, you will have to deal with how the child feels when he finds out his parents are cousins.You may have to move to a place where people do not know you, because you run the risk of being harassed.You should discuss all of these issues with your girlfriend before the two of you make a decision. You run the risk of losing family and friends, being ostracized by society, and not having kids. If both of you feel like being together is worth more than all the possible losses, then go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): What ever you do, or decide to do, please make sure she knows that for the two of you to have children will be UNWANTED! The risk to high!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008):
Marriag amoung (first) cousins are common in India. Amoung hindus, brothers and sisters children are permitted to marry . Among some muslim communities even brothers children marry each other. But now a days due to medical reasons they don't do that. If both of you love so much, then go ahead and marry. But how to tackle and passify your relatives is your problem. Such a marriage has taken place in my place recently and they both left to another state to live peacefuly.
Good Luck !
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