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*abygirl2010
writes:I have been in a relationship for 8 months now and now all of a sudden my guy thinks i am cheating how do i deal with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): Tell him why he thinks so. Then tell him you are not. If he persists, then dump him, he's just annoying.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 July 2010):
He's the one cheating.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Time to check up on him, chances are that he is cheating.If he is not cheating, then dont put up with verbal abuse from him for something that he has manufactured in his small mind!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): 9 times out of 10, this means he's cheated on you...
Regardless, this is abuse, and he either needs to deal with this crazy thinking or go...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): If you are not cheating, then you can't help him. He'll want evidence, explanation, support, pleading, blah blah blah. These things are just Black Holes in unhealthy people. Nothing you do or say helps him. Explaining/responding temporarily gets you through like an afternoon or a weekend, but they still cling to their story of how he's convinced you cheated because you wore that, said this, texted something, gone for 2.5 minutes, scratched your head a weird way, and blinked more than he thinks you should. You know what I mean?So what you do is decide if you do tolerate this paranoia or don't tolerate it. If you don't tolerate it, then you literally pretend he's just not even worried about it. He throws you the accusation, and you just barely shrug and hardly blink and make a face like, "Well, we've heard this before. God you know, I really need a new bra; they're on sale at Kohl's" ya know? Blow him off. If you do tolerate it, then you're in for a lifetime of explaining and being afraid of what he thinks. I say go with the zero tolerance and completely forget about what he thinks on this matter, don't even care, and show it, when he throws the accusation, just barely shrug and talk about something else. He's going to read an explanation as admission anyway, so just blow the dude off.
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