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writes:My girlfriend and i just broke up last week. We had been going out for a year and a half and everything was perfect until about a month ago. She told me she wasnt sure if she wanted a relationship. We took sometime apart but didnt break up, after a few days she said she wanted to be with me and didnt want to be apart from me anymore. Things went fine again until last weekend when we were at a party. I noticed that she was acting distant and was kind of ignoring me. i didnt say anything for a while and then after a few hours said i had to leave and she asked why. Then i told her how i felt. We ended up getting into an arguement and then making up the next day. Another day went by and she was supposed to sleep over. When she got to my house she told me she had something to tell me. She said that she felt the way she had in the past and she didnt know if she wanted a relationship. I told her that she needs to find what she wants for herself and that maybe us breaking up for a little would be the right thing for her to do that. So we didnt see each other for a few days and i was texting her alot and i talked to some friends and i relized that i should stop for alittle so i did. She then texted me later that day and asked me to baby sit with her for he aunt. She ended up falling asleep and not baby sitting. A few hours later i called her cause she hadent called me and i was waiting for he to tell me when we were going to baby sit she said she fell asleep and asked if i wanted to hang out. She came over my house and then a couple of friends of ours came also. we ended up hanging out for a little then went and got something to eat. She was supposed to go to a party with a friend but then instead ended up staying with us. We went back to my house for about an hour then our friends left and it was just us too. We were sitting on the couch and then she hugged me we ended up hooking up for a minute or two then just cuddling for a few minutes. She asked me to sleep at her house cause she didnt want me to be at home alone cause my parents were there that night. We talked at here house and she told me that she kissed another guy the other night night but she thought of me after she did it. I dont know what that means but she has been texting him alot while i was hanging out with her and i knew that something was going on between them and i actually asked her about it before she told me anything and she denied it but then in the end told me. We went to sleep then i woke up the next day but she wouldnt wake up yet and when she did she kept texting the guy that she had hooked up with. She said that she didnt want to be like that with him and she just wanted to friends with him and she thought she sent him the wrong message and that she didnt want relationship with him. I think they ended up hanging out today but i dont really care about the two of them and what they do im just confused about us. I ended up texting he a qoute that i found on the internet and she said "why u gotta do that to me!" and i said "sorry i thought it was cute" and she said "It was really cute 3" i just dont get it the qoute was about time healing wounds and how all it has done for me was make me miss her more. Im confused i want to be with her and i know that she loves me but i just dont know what to do.
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reader, vikkicutie  +, writes (2 December 2008):
 i think that she needs to be on her own for a while, know that you want to be with her i think that it would be a better idea if you eft her to it for a while so then she can determain what she realy wants: you or this other guy.
i know that it is hard to let her go but in the long run you both need to do this so you can have a few days to yourself and so can she, by doing this i think that it will make you realise that its her you want and it wil give her the chance to miss you and she will think about al the good times youve both had together.
she needs to get her head around things before you both jump into bed together or give each other mixed signals.
i hope ive helpa little bit :)
good luck! xxx
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