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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. About a month ago I had a drunken "encounter" with a friends boyfriend. I know what I did was wrong, and that's why I'm now trying to put things right. We were both ridicuously drunk and although at first I kept saying no and that he had a girlfriend, I gave in in the end and let him touch me and kiss me. We didnt have sex. I was drunk and I know that's not an excuse but I've never done anything like this before. He was deeply regretful to next morning, and where as I was regretting not having kept to my guns and said no more, he said he was egretful but felt that his gf and him were now "even" for the one night stand she had behind his back. I thought this was a bit of a strange thing to say, esp' since he profresses to love her so much. About 2 weeks ago I confided in my best friend, who is also a friend of the girlfriend and friend of the guy I had the drunken encounter with, about what had happened. To my genuine surprise, she told me that she had something to tell me too. Turns out he did the exact same thing with her, and she says she thinks there might be other women too. I know I've done wrong and although the girlfriend isn't a close friend, my best friend and I have decided it is probably best she hears it from us rather than from someone else. We also feel she has a right to know whats going on. Her boyfriend tried to have unprotected sex with me but I refused - what if he is having unprotected sex with other women? Both my friend and i know we have to tell the girlfriend but I am wondering how we go about it? I know there may not be a perfect time to tell her that her bf of 3 years is attempting to have affairs, but is there any way we can do this? I barely know this girl, only really know her through her boyfriend but my best friend knows her really well.
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reader, Asked Angel +, writes (1 December 2008):
 You have to sit down with this girl and be honest tell her what happened between you and her B/F and you don't think your the only one's.You must be prepared that she may not thank you for this or even belive you.But even so she deserve's to no the truth. He may well be putting her in danger by having unprotected sex with other women.You did a bad thing but if your trully sorry i hope (one day) she will see this.What your friend chosses to do with the infomation you give her is up to her.I had a similar situation and new a friend had been cheated on and DIDN'T tell her for a long time. My friend was so hurt that we hadn't told her sooner.And do you no what she did NOTHING! She stayed with her B/F who went on to cheat on her twice more.We all promised that if anything like that ever happened again we would be honest straight away no matter how hard it was for us or them.You need to tell her asap. She needs to know the truth.
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