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writes:I'm 19 yrs old and i'm in a relationship with a guy who i adore and love. We have been together for almost 2 years now and i never want to lose him. I used to be kind of a slut, i dated a tonne of guys and cheated on almost all of them. They were never very long relationships and never lasted more than 2 months. Then i met my current boyfriend and i feel in love with him and realised that it was time to grow up and stop acting like a child. Things with us have been great, we are really close and i have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter from a past relationship, and my daughter loves the guy im with now, she calls him dad and he loves her like his own. Things may sound perfect but there not up until 3 weeks ago i thought they were, untill i recieved a text asking me if i knew what my boyfriend had been up to and telling me i should check his facebook emails. I deleted the text straight away and tried to forget about it but i just couldnt so i checked his emails and the were a bunch of emails to all different girls from him asking them if they can send him nude pictures and even asking 1 girl if they could meet up for sex, so i asked him about it and he said that he was just joking with them and i had nothing to worry about, but i dont know if i should be worried or not cause i dont want to risk jeopardising my relationship, mostly because of my daughter and how much she looks up to him and cause i do love him.. So what should I do about this?
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reader, krit  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Your getting a dose of your own medicine.This is NO suprise to me as this question is quite common on DC and all of them get same answer from people----WHAT GOES AROUND COMES BACK AROUND.this is the biggest lesson of life . It Doesnt matter if YOU want to stop being a CHILD or not as he has decided to be an ADULT now. So I'm afraid that you would be able to stop his actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): Does he seem like hes lying or feeling guilty? Go with your gut feeling. If you do stay with him tell him to stop emailing girls like that, that even if it may be a joke its still upseting and makes you feel uneasy and tell him he better not do some thing like that again because you wont be able to trust him and would have to think twice about your relationship. I have been cheated on by my current boyfriend we have been togather over a year and still plan to get married and have kids i forgave him because he came out and told me. He felt awful about it and when i was talking to him he would cry becuase he dint want to lose me It was a one time mistake. I truly love him and i know he truly loves me he just messed up. Every situation is diffrint it depends on how you feel and how you think he feels.
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reader, princessjasmine  +, writes (17 April 2011):
First of all, your daughter is 2, she will forget about him. This is about YOU! Clearly he is bull shitting you. You should be worried becsase that sounds pretty bad. I'm sorry he's not the right guy for you, he seems really immature! move on.
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Bless you...but...you don't know if you should be worried? His excuse is one of the most lame I have ever heard and his absolute lack of remorse doesnt speak kindly of him at all. You know this but you dont want to acknowledge whats happening and I have to say no good will come in the long run from burying this even your intent, to protect your daughter is noble. It will eat you up inside every time he goes out, you will wonder if he is cheating on you and this will in time effect everything in your life, including your daughter. You will start rowing and she will see that and what effect do you think that will have? I think there is no alternative to the course of action you know you need to take but are understandably scared of doing. Good luck and take care.
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