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writes:I went out with this girl for 1 year and 5 months we loved each other, but we broke up because we were both stressed and we didnt know how to deal with each other at the time. we understood we needed time apart..We broke up in august and started talking back again in December we started hanging out and talking we really understood each other we didnt go back out but we still loved each other..After Valentines day we stopped talking I started drinking alot during February as well, Im already addicted to cigarettes and she always had a problem with that, but one of her friends told me the reason she didnt want to get back with me was because of my lifestyle.One of my good friends started talking to her and hanging out with her in march, and they became close I guess recently. I asked her what was up with their relationship and she told me she wasn't attracted to him, but I know he is attracted to her eh. Well I started talking to another girl in April but we don't connect intellectually like my ex girlfriend and I did. So last Saturday I got really intoxicated and called up My Ex and told her I loved her and I missed her relationships. I dont remember it much, she called me up to see if I was alright the next day, but she then she called my friend and they talked shit about me for a couple of hours and I guess he convinced her that for her future that she needs to stop talking to me. I've texted her sorry for the drunken call but she wont respond.I love her so much and she doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I feel horrible and betrayed because I would change my lifestyle for her..I dont know what I should do I think my friend is trying to get with her. But I really want her back how can I convince her?
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reader, Aunt Letty  +, writes (31 May 2008):
Change your lifestyle because you want to, not because of her. Prove you're a better person, get rid of this so-called friend, don't hassle her or pressure her. Choose a date thats important to both of you or her birthday/valentine's day and send her her favourite flowers with a card telling her she's made you a better man, whether she speaks to you again or not is irrelevant because you'll always Love her, she'll always be important to you and you'll always be there if she needs you. That should get her to at least say Thank you. You need to sort yourself out and show her that you're fine without her before you can say that you'd like to be with her. Good Luck.
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reader, angelrockheart +, writes (31 May 2008):
your ex may not be talking to you because if you were drunk she may have thought you were not serious and she may have thought you were messing around - I think you should not speak to her for a while to give her some space - sorry if this advice is not useful- I am not that experianced as I am only 15 - good luck x
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