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writes:My boyfriend is currently in prison and gets released next week. He has a lot of paranoia about me cheating on him which I would never ever do. I love this guy. Anyways a few days ago I put myself into a really crappy situation that I feel really guilty about. I was having the worst day, and for the first time ever I resorted to doing cocaine out of frustration. I've done drugs in the past but other than weed never done it before out of frustration, just fun. I've always been smart and thought twice if I got the urge. That night I just gave in and asked my babys dad( who is a good friend of my boyfriend) if he would get it for me. He did, and we went to my house cuz nobody was there and did it together. That was my second mistake. It sounds bad but he is like my brother now, no sexual feelings whatsoever. I feel like I need to tell my boyfriend what happened when he gets out but when I mentioned this to my babys dad he said not to tell him cuz my boyfriend would really beat him up. Do I tell my boyfriend and risk him beating my babys dad and possibly breaking up with me thinking something did happen? Or not say anything because I know I didn't do anything? I don't want to betray either hit any more than I may have possibly already done... I feel the right thing is to say something but I don't know?? Can anyone help me ? I know I made horrible judgment and it was completely my fault but the possiblities of the outcome are making me really nervous. I wanna throw up
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reader, missmess +, writes (4 August 2010):
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Thank you, I agree and it won't be happening anymore. I'm good at making mistakes and learning from them . I appreciate your help
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (4 August 2010):
 The answer's simple, don't mention it. You didn't do anything bad with this guy. If your boyfriend is that paranoid and jealous, there's something wrong with that. If you feel you absolutely have to tell him, mention it in an offhand manner like: Hon, you won't believe this but I smoked weed with *fill in name* the other day, it was completely stupid! Wish you had been there though, I always miss you like crazy." If you go about telling him all guilty and nervous, he'll jump to wrong conclusions. So again, if there's a need to tell him, be cool and relaxed, act like it's no big deal (which it wasn't). But, on future note, don't do it again. When guys are told that their girlfriends were with another man with drugs or alcohol involved, they do think the worst because those substances do make people act differently and are to be blamed for things like rape and infidelity. So, be careful.
Wish ya luck!
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