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writes:hey . Im a shy girl , introvert, and im struggling to get my next bf. I had only 3 bfs. What should I do? I already had cut my hair, got some new clothes but nah.. theyre not intrested... Please help
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reader, busy04  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 It's easy for someone to say don't be shy (like Ms. Anonymous below), but it's easier said than done when you've been that way all your life. Try going out every now & then with a few friends just to get used to being around different people. Or you can go to a coffee shop, a park, etc & start small talk with someone, anyone about anything: the weather, the news there are all kinds of things you can find to talk about & it doesn't have to be a male you talk to first, it's just something to help you "get out the box" :)
You're only 18-21 & you've had 3 boyfriends already, so you must be doing something right. And you don't always have to be in the center of attention, or the life of the party to attract someone. I mean yeah those things can contribute to being seen, but they aren't always important, and sometimes that's NOT the best way to attract someone. And some men like the quiet, shy women: that can be a plus!
Being bolder & more outgoing starts on the inside, so start with yourself. Do things that don't normally do, say some things that you don't normally say, if you walk down the street start saying "good morning or afternoon" or "how are you doing" even more to people around just in passing them, make small changes: overcoming shyness is a self effort & choice that you have to make. You've already changed your hair & wardrobe, so changing your thinking about being bolder & having that inward/outward confidence should be next on the list! Take small steps first...they do lead to big ones :)
Good luck Hun!
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reader, reign154 +, writes (9 August 2009):
God we must be sisters.lol i know how you feel. ive been trying to change my looks and personality just to try and get guys interested but nothing ever seemed to work. it got so bad that i got jealous of my friends and begun to think that i was ugly and my self esteem really went down the tube. But i figured out that if guys didnt like me for who i was then that was their own problem becasue regardless of what other people thought i was going to be me. I would say dont stress youself about trying to be the prettiest or most outgoing girl becasue there is always going to be someone prettier or have a better personality than you and you should never compare or second guess yourself to others becasue in the end the only person that you are hurting is yourself. No matter how much we try to change our outside we are always going to be the same person inside and thats the person you should really show. Dont go looking for guys becasue if you do then you are just wasting you time. Let them come to you by having fun, being yourself, and live life without doubting yourself. confidence is the most beautiful thing a person can have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): There must be someone out there who wants you. I don't think you try hard enough. You had 3 bfs, some had none. Try to talk and open up more, don't be shy !!
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