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writes:im 18 female and i cant seem to get myself off... ive tried fingering and touching myself but it doesnt feel that good to me at all. The most enjoyment i get is from "pillow sex" so to speak which is rubbing myself against or riding on a pillow. however ive never orgasmed or anything from that, i have cum, but i have no orgasm. Yet this seems to be the only way i can pleasure myself. Im a virgin and still really tight, and im worried that when i have sex, nothing will feel good :( im also really paranoid now that if a guy goes down on me or fingers me it will hurt and not do anything. Im embarrassed and i dont know what to do :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice everyone, it was all very helpful :)
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reader, lovesucks2011  +, writes (6 May 2011):
Believe me, it will feel good. You just don't know how much yet cuz your a virgin, it's the same way I was, but the first times gonna hurt, after that you'll be happy ;) just don't loose it when you're not ready! !
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Relax! You will be fine.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Don't worry so much! You have nothing to fear, you're just scaring yourself. These things work themselves out, and together with a partner you will find wonderful ways of pleasure that you didn't ever know of. It is quite different to have someone else touch you than it is to touch yourself! Besides, there's more to your body than your vagina and clitoris. So don't worry, it will work itself out once you get a boyfriend and start having sex.
As for your orgasm, take equipment in hand instead of trying to work it with manual labour. I never came from using just hands or pillow humping either. Next time you take a shower, turn the water up towards your clitoris and rinse well, then as the water hits your clitoris you will get stimulation at a whole new level. It will not feel as when you are touching yourself. If the water pressure is soft it can almost resemble a man licking you. But if it is too soft you wont come from that either, so turn up the water pressure, or use a massage shower head instead that has a single strong spray of water.
Other than that, you can buy a vibrator to use for clitoral stimulation. Or... and this will sound corny, you can take a smaller carrot, preferably one with some twists, warm it to room temperature, wrap it in a condom, and use it while you use your hands on your clitoris.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Please stop worrying so much, you are probably perfectly normal.
Sexually is a journey as much as it is a destination. It takes time for it to be awakened, and developed after you have become sexually active. Sexual response is only part mechanical in nature. The rest takes place in the brain. So having chemistry and an emotional attachment to your lover combines with all those feelings an enhances your physical response.
But you have to be relaxed and anxiety free for anything to happen, if you're not, nothing will work well sexually. So the best thing you can do for yourself is let all those fears go. When the time is right for you it will happen naturally and be wonderful.
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