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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hey ok a year and a hlf ago, my boyfriend went to this girls prom with her, he used to be best friends with her brother who died tragically a few years ago. she had asked him to go with her coz her boyfrend at the time didnt want to go - he was much older than her. hes not especially close to her but likes to keep in touch with the family which is completely fair. she used to be a few years below me in high school and had a bit of a reputation so i was wary and i bit jealous that he was goin with her but i trusted him. i met her recently on a night out and at the end of the night when she was going to get a cab home and he told me he was going to go in the cab with her to make sure she got home ok then come back. i mean she's 21 i think she's safe enough to get home in a cab by herself? so i got really pissed at him and he didnt go with her in the end...kept saying that shes like a sister though hes not that close with her. i was out recently and she was talking to my friend who she doesnt really know and asking her if i was coming to the party and then after told her in front of me that she had had an abortion. i thought it was strange since she doesnt really know either of us that she would say that. when i saw my boyf the next day i asked him if he knew this and he said yes that he had been talking with her when this was happening. does he have feelings for her? am i just being stupid? i know i can trust him but im not sure about her, do you think he talks with her alot behind my back?
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reader, cd206  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 I think you need to trust your boyfriend. It sounds to me like he feels slightly responsible for this girl because she was his best mate's little sister and she's a link to him and he feels a responsibility to fill the void left by her brother's death. My guess is that her abortion only made him feel more protective towards her.
However, I think you're right to be worried in a way since it sounds like she depends onhim quite a lot and it is possible that her feelings for him have grown but relax. You say you can trust him and it'd be wrong to take away a friend from this girl. Plus I think your boyfriend would end up resenting you for it. As far as I can see your boyfriend has given you no reason not to trust him and if he really loves you it doesn't matter how this other girl feels about him so chill out and try to relax. Jealous girls really turn guys off.
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