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writes:I love my boyfriend so much. I feel like we are falling apart. We have been together for a little over a year. We broke up awhile ago for about 5 or 6 months but we were still seeing each other. He used to be so crazy about me, except now since we've got officially back together it seems as if he doesn't care about me as much. We've talked about it and he says his feelings aren't as strong, he doesn't want to break up/go on a break, and he says he cares and loves for me alot but I just don;t see it anymore. I don't want to fight anymore or have this relationship dull. I don't know what else I can do...I even tried going away for a week and he says that he was so busy with his personal life that he didn't miss me as much as he thought he would. I am worried that we are going to a place that I don;t want to go to. Please help.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (3 August 2010):
 I think if you've only been at it for about a year and there are already significant breaks in the relationships and indifference on one person's end it's not really worth salvaging because there probably isn't that much invested. find someone else who cares more.
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reader, michaelch +, writes (3 August 2010):
 I think you two should take a break. You two should both sit down and discuss your feelings, and what you want out of the relationship. Who knows, maybe you two will end up best friends. Just make sure that you talk face-face and comfort each other.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (3 August 2010):
You might be growing apart? sometimes, when a couple breaks up. things change? they have had some alone time to think about things and sometimes alone time can make the heart grow fonder! and sometimes not? and it could just possibly something you are feeling thats to do w/ you and not so much him? like maybe you don't feel him anymore! and you are fighting it. do take sometime out to sort things in your mind! and just totally be honest w/ him. i mean what else can you do? it's either there or it's not! you just may very well have grew apart? but you wont know unless you deal w/ it out in the open w/ one another, and respect one another enough to let each other go if that is the case.
Best Wishes!
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 The hardest thing is always to restart an old relationship. Because there been so much hurt and there no way to completely start a new.
To me i think you both should maybe take a break from this relationship take a step back and see if this really worth putting all your effort in. because its not gonna get eaiser anytime soon, you've had the honeymoon peroid. so now your at the point where you have to work really hard to get back get even close to that point.
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reader, Theemachine +, writes (3 August 2010):
You need to try some kind of relationship therapist or maybe try doing new activities together to strengthen the bond
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